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someone please helps or just be kind

grizzlyAdams24
grizzlyAdams24
I can't get her out of my head and it's killing me. I want so badly to let go because of what she did but she's all i think about. It's got me so unmotivated and down. Someone please help, or just be kind. :(
grizzlyAdams24
grizzlyAdams24
Thank you. I think today may have been the worst out of the past week just from the message i received, basically making me feel like i wasn't good enough, which hurts a lot. But just being on here and seeing all this support and love and advice from people that I have and will probably never meet face to face is helping so much. You people are amazing and dont ever let anyone tell you differently.

I'm so glad I joined this
deleted_user
deleted_user
And maybe you aren't. But you have no choice in that, so there's no action to take. You can't help who you are "good enough" or "not good enough for". People change the rules all the time. Ergo, divorce, breakup, cheating, and on and on.

You still have you, and that's the only person you are accountable to, unless you give your word to someone else.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Can't change the past, but you can change the future. Learn from what you did wrong and promise yourself you won't make those mistakes in the future. Have a good cry. The more you hold the feelings in the longer they will take to go away. I felt like crap for a few months, and I was married for 24 years. Nothing makes the pain go away but time, and sometimes a good therapist. Just work on being the best you you can be.
grizzlyAdams24
grizzlyAdams24
I definitely know this is a great time to seize to better myself. Get into shape, be healthier, be a better friend, get better at my job. I know it will all happen in due time, but I get so up like I am feeling alright now but when I wake up or I'm not busy I get so down then its hard to see some glimmer of light again.
deleted_user
deleted_user
ya guy,

thats just plain ole grief
angieB1234
angieB1234
The morning is also my worst time. It's like everything has been reset once again and you have to face the pain.

I can tell you that after 3 weeks I have had a little less of those types of mornings. But just be patient with yourself and don't try and rush it.

I found that when I did that, I was right back to the beginning again.
lovelost74
lovelost74
Keep it simple right now. Stay busy and eat right!! Small steps! I worked for Jared! (subway)(just in case I am too highbrow with my humor) LOL
grizzlyAdams24
grizzlyAdams24
all i know is I'm really glad and lucky to have found this site. Expressing my feelings and not being ridiculed for them is such a relief. I'm gonna continue to tell myself the best is yet to come. and it is for you people on here as well. Thank you for being so kind!!!!
grizzlyAdams24
grizzlyAdams24
Yea just got another text from her saying shes really sorry but its too late and we're done. My heart hurts so badly. but i gotta keep pushing forward and have NC with her.