Hugs.

Hugs

I still would love to get my hands on my ex. He is
accountable, no matter what Him and his little fan
club think. I am a peaceful person except About
him then my anger really heats up. I am not real
Rational where he is concerned especially over the
Holidays thats the worst time from thanksgiving to
New years. This my 3rd holiday Season since he left
to be with his GF. Hopefully one day it will get better.
HUGS

Thank you everyone it is much appreciated......just having a rough day

SBC give yourself a break its the holidays
And all the feelings and emotions are close
To the surface whether you want them or not.

Mine are down deep and they just keep bubbling
Up especially at this time of year. Its not fair and
Its not what we wanted and besides that healthy
anger is a Good thing. HUGS

You are right, thank you and I appreciate it. The holidays are my favorite time of the year it just sucks the way this year turned out. All will get better already is a million times better than it was 6 months ago. I will just keep on and hope I find my happiness soon.

Let me know how you find it, most of my stuff
Is in there deep and i have no control over my
Feelings and emotions. I know you were long
Term married too and i believe no children either.

It was my ex and i against the world until he decided
He did not like me too well and then got nasty. I stayed
Way too long and i am now suffering the consequences.

I am not on anyone elses timeline, it generally takes
3 years to normalize post divorce. I am not anywhere
Near that normal stage yet. I keep working on myself
And trying to move thru the muck and keep my sanity.

Grieving is a great time to deal with a lot of this stuff,
Stuffing it down only makes everything last longer
And it travels along with you as you try to move on.
HUGS

Oh my God. Please let's help each other. I am so full of self destructive hatred it is ruining my life. It has been almost a year and I'm getting worse every single day. I spend 8 hrs today staring at ceiling and thinking

4434 I am here whenever you want to talk. Feel free to message me.

Its an up amd down process so I can relate.

Hang in there. This all sucks for sure.

I get it. I spent most of the last 2 days with a deep, quiet, strong, anger. My ex destroyed our family. He took my kids from me. Yes, I have them most days. But, I have to spend part of Christmas without them. I have forgiven him for a lot... but not sure if I will ever really forgive that...

I get it.

I get it too. Had a terrible breakup in college that I suffered through for years so in a way it's helped me through the healing faster through this divorce. Even with decent recovery I've stumbled and felt a lot of anger bubble up at how she gets to live a picture perfect life while though I've got support, I magically have a layer of suspicion around me. I feel like I've been released from jail for being wrongly accused yet still have to walk around being judged with disbelief that I was in the wrong. And yes, it's like staring at the sun-I had to look at her FB pix=everything looking all perfect. SMH

The holidays can be so hard. Vent away. Sending a healing hug!!!

I understand the feeling 100% about wanting to punch your ex. I think the callousness of their behavior leaves us in so much pain. If we could make them experience just a fraction of the intensity of our pain, we think we would feel better. Unfortunately, I know my logical side says that isn't true. We are not in control of anyone else's happiness or sadness. We are only in charge of ours. But yet, I still want to scream, yell, punch, just like you!!!