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I had my boys tonight. My ex was supposed to go to a mother/daughter thing the school sponsored. She asked me to take the boys so she wouldn't have to find a sitter for the boys. I didn't have any other plans so I was glad to be able to have some additional time to spend with my kids.
My oldest son was telling me about my ex-wife's current boyfriend. He said he was upset at his mom because she asked her boyfriend to spend the night and my son didn't like that. The excuse she gave was that her boyfriend was too tired to drive home (yeah, I believe that ... NOT). Anyway, the next morning my son told her that he didn't sleep well and kept waking up all night long because he was uncomfortable that her boyfriend was there in the house.
Later that night, as I was bringing my boys back to her place, my youngest said, "I bet mom's boyfriend will be at the house.", and sure enough, his car was in the drive way when I got there. Apparently, my ex skipped the mother/daughter thing, took my daughter out to dinner and ice cream then came home and called up her boyfriend to come over then told my daughter to call me in about an hour to bring the boys home. My ex had told me that she would call me when they were done with the mother/daughter night ... apparently, she needed some mother/boyfriend time as well.
This disregard for the wishes of the children and the irresponsible behavior of having a man she has only been dating for a short period of time sleep in the house when she has the children really bothers me. When I have the kids with me I could care less who she has over for the night ... but I don't think it is right for her to have a "house guest" while she has the kids with her. Do you think I am over reacting? What would you do?
My oldest son was telling me about my ex-wife's current boyfriend. He said he was upset at his mom because she asked her boyfriend to spend the night and my son didn't like that. The excuse she gave was that her boyfriend was too tired to drive home (yeah, I believe that ... NOT). Anyway, the next morning my son told her that he didn't sleep well and kept waking up all night long because he was uncomfortable that her boyfriend was there in the house.
Later that night, as I was bringing my boys back to her place, my youngest said, "I bet mom's boyfriend will be at the house.", and sure enough, his car was in the drive way when I got there. Apparently, my ex skipped the mother/daughter thing, took my daughter out to dinner and ice cream then came home and called up her boyfriend to come over then told my daughter to call me in about an hour to bring the boys home. My ex had told me that she would call me when they were done with the mother/daughter night ... apparently, she needed some mother/boyfriend time as well.
This disregard for the wishes of the children and the irresponsible behavior of having a man she has only been dating for a short period of time sleep in the house when she has the children really bothers me. When I have the kids with me I could care less who she has over for the night ... but I don't think it is right for her to have a "house guest" while she has the kids with her. Do you think I am over reacting? What would you do?
I told him to close his eyes and picture my 6 yr old waking up and climbing into bed with me..and another man.
He signed.
courier..I understand what you are saying. I do think it makes a difference to the kids. My 11 yr old was never anxious about his dad and I sleeping in the same bed together. Now..he practices his Karate moves. NO ONE is going to make a move on HIS mom :) The dynamics are just different. I do think that time, longevity of the relationship, and marriage make it more acceptable to kids.
Anyone who would date someone for a month and bring that person into your home with your kids is not thinking clearly. Your son is probably like mine..very protective of Mom.