Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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Rman 03/16/2009

After being spung with the news that my wife wants to end this marriage, I was shocked. Now I am wondering how she could just throw it all away? How could a woman just throw away her marriage, knowing that we have two small children? I just don't get it? Is she just hardcore? Sorry, I just needed to vent.

deleted_user 03/17/2009

to be honest, from my perspective, to throw it all away and to be cold is a form of self defense...by being cold you're sort of protecting yourself and in a way not dealing with your feelings because you can't. you kind of just close the doors because its easier than thinking about all the whys and the other persons feelings. its a form of taking care of yourself whether or right or wrong when you dont have the ability to love and stay vulnerable through ending it. it's a selfish way to cope...

deleted_user 03/17/2009

It's been a few months for me and I am still struggling with how the loving person that I was spending my life with could turn cold as ice to me.

I may never fully get what happened there.
Maybe turning off her emotions was the only way for her to get the nerve to do what she did. Hard to say.

If it helps, I used to be a compplete wreck. Now I have entire hours where I feel normal.

deleted_user 03/17/2009

I think a lot of us had the same exact questions at one time or another. vent away..

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