Way to go bro!! I wish i was in your shoes now. I would lover for her now to try to reconnect and me to not care!

awesome. i'm not sure if mine tried to contact me, i would be in the i don't care mode. wish i could say i was. after all the crap i have been through, i wish the feelings would just go away.

My ex is doing pretty much the same. I'm trying to get over him, which is hard as hell, and he keeps on pulling things ion me. I told him once he divorced me that's it. He said to me 'you never know' but I do and can't be a yo-yo anymore. Keep on being strong even though it hurts...

funny, my husband never tried to reconnect w/ me. apparently his online gf is "wonderful".

Funny, I was the bad guy, changed, didn't leave her be... saw her almost every day, then she said she needed space, it was hard, but I gave her 2 days of space, she ends up telling me, she missed me in those 2 days. So, I intend on spacing out seeing her so she can miss me more. We will see how that works out...

my ex does the same thing. funny, he didn't care to repair the marriage, but he still wants me hear about his life. I just ignore it and quietly hang up. Way to go!!!

I would give my left arm to have my stbx care.

Mind games...don't you love them? She WANTS to know if you still miss her, if you still want her, and if you are still pining away for her. Has she said ANYTHING about wanting to work on your marriage? (Probably not.) Keep your guard up, protect your heart. Good luck!

admire your strenght my friend.
stick to you guns!

My stbx calls me nearly every day. When I see his # come up on caller id, I just cringe. Sometimes I don't answer the phone. Sometimes, if I don't answer the phone, he'll call my cell a minute later.

I don't want to talk to him. Don't have anything to say to him. He calls to chit chat. How am I? How are the dogs? Have I heard the weather for the day? Did I watch some tv show? I just give yes or no answers and then find a reason to end the call.

Neither of us want to get back together. He wants us to be "friends". I am just not ready for that. Don't know if I want to be his friend. Doubt it.

My stbx wanted my cell number and all my e-mail addresses. I said no. He can call my house (I don't answer) or get me on hotmail (the preferred way). He told me he wanted my cell for emergengies... What emergencies? Pick up his shirts at the dry cleaner? He has control issues and still think he'll be able to wiggle his way back into my life... He should call his mistress for good quality time! I told him it was not healthy for him to be so connected to me... That really pissed him off. I'm evil!

For those of you who are saying you wished your stbx still cared like mine does: she doesnt care. Not about me. Not about us. Her trying to reconnect with me is for her own selfish reasons and feelings. It has nothing to do with any feelings she might have for me, or for our past relationship.

Its all a head game. Im just not playing it. Not anymore.

Going through the same thing. Keep getting txts about how guilty he feels, how he doesn't want me to hurt anymore, he doesn't want us to argue, can I ever forgive him, etc. It's... something...

Cool..that is aawesome that you put your foot down. Keep doing it ;)

mine never tried to call but instead he would stop at my siters house to check up on me and find out how I was doing.they would tell him well lets put it this way you went from a 10 to a 0 and she went from being with a 0 to being a 10.he stopped coming by he got the hint seeing how he wanted the divorce.