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Sex after separation or divorce

Rman
Rman
It seems to me that having sex with someone else, after a breakup or divorce, would ease some of the pain and stress associated with separation. Is this true? If so, I'm gonna have to go out and get me some...just kidding...maybe. Hope nobody is offended by this post.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I agree with Bernie... as much as I would love a one-night stand for the short-term, in the long term I know it would mess me up. No issues with the ex, just me. Fortunately (or unfortunately?) I don't go looking for one-night stands; therefore, I don't HAVE any one-night stands...
deleted_user
deleted_user
When I met with my counselor this week she suggested a "fuck" buddy; I am not ready for any type of emotional connection; but how can you not be connected emotionally to a buddy?

I guess it's everyone's individual decision to make. Me, I'm gonna take it nice and slow!

And Patti, TOO FUNNY...ty for the laugh! Sad part (and good part?) is that it's true! LOL Syren
deleted_user
deleted_user
I agree - Patti - that was great!

As for the post, I am NO WHERE near even considering it. I know FOR SURE my head would be all messed up if I did something like that. Guilt would send me over the edge. BUT, having said that, I do know people who say "a distraction" made things easier for them. To each his own, I guess. Just not for me.
deleted_user
deleted_user
So where does one get one of those buddies?
deleted_user
deleted_user
Sex? what is that? Wait I think I remember now...My STBX had sexual anorexia due to his porn/sex addiction, so me not getting any now (other than with myself) is not new to me.

Sex with another person is not in my plans. Besides I need to heal and like me for who I am before I can give myself to someone else. To be honest, I do not care how long it takes me to get healthy again. I have one person in my life who depends on me, that is my son. Once he has grown up and is living on his own,then (if I am healthy) I may look for someone to be in my life.