Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Is sex addiction a real thing and is there help for it?
My ex (of almost 2 yrs) recently cheated on me with a former sex-partner (i cannot call her "ex" because they were never together), because we only had sex once in a less than 3 wk span, which was not the norm for us. But it was because we moved, he is working 2 full time jobs, I was working and in my last week of classes, and sorry for the personal info but I had my cycle followed by a YI. There was a lot going on on top of our schedules not colliding. He told me at the start of our relationship that he was a sex addict but we never had issues in that area until recently. He said he was trying to reach out to me, which is true, and I wasn't meeting his needs. I am now feeling guilt and blame for this and I hate it. It was less than 3 weeks! And I wasn't getting any either but I didn't go and cheat! He literally left the house to go to "Walmart" and came back an hour later. The girl contacted me on Facebook to tell me and he admitted to it the next day. Sounds crazy but I know without a doubt that this man loves me and would do anything for me but I am so shocked and hurt that this happened!
Is sex really this meaningless to guys?
My ex (of almost 2 yrs) recently cheated on me with a former sex-partner (i cannot call her "ex" because they were never together), because we only had sex once in a less than 3 wk span, which was not the norm for us. But it was because we moved, he is working 2 full time jobs, I was working and in my last week of classes, and sorry for the personal info but I had my cycle followed by a YI. There was a lot going on on top of our schedules not colliding. He told me at the start of our relationship that he was a sex addict but we never had issues in that area until recently. He said he was trying to reach out to me, which is true, and I wasn't meeting his needs. I am now feeling guilt and blame for this and I hate it. It was less than 3 weeks! And I wasn't getting any either but I didn't go and cheat! He literally left the house to go to "Walmart" and came back an hour later. The girl contacted me on Facebook to tell me and he admitted to it the next day. Sounds crazy but I know without a doubt that this man loves me and would do anything for me but I am so shocked and hurt that this happened!
Is sex really this meaningless to guys?
Let him be a whore.
Dump him.
If an addict is not willing to get required therapy and truly work address his condition, there is nothing you can do to change him other than go down with the ship trying.
The first part of the question is simple: No treatment = dump him.
The second part is not: i.e treatment does not equal trust.
With only two years into a relationship, I would be wondering how much more time I would be willing to give before giving up.
I say run as fast and hard as you can! Today's Internet and women who are willing to commit crimes against other women (i.e. women who knowingly 'help' a man cheat on their significant other) makes the problem even more difficult for so-called "addicts" to overcome. Think of your health and well-being, because he isn't and never will.
Sex is only meaningless to meaningless men. Find yourself a man worthy of your love and fidelity.
Not all men screw around but, sadly, my guess is that about 80% will. Be very careful when man shopping.
He needs to go get help and even that process takes loooong!
Separate yourself and you will see: no more yeast infections. Do a little research and you will find they are associated with multiple sexual partners.
Forgive me the personal recommendation, but I believe you TRULY need to get away from this guy before you are stuck with a disease for life. And I seriously recommend a visit to your gynecologist asap. In fact, it was recommended to me that I go every three months for a year after parting from my sex addict. And I did. And every time I laid back and hoisted my legs up into those darned stirrups I used the moment to remind myself how wise it was to stay away from him.
I hope I haven't over-shared, it's just that when I put the words to the "YI"... alarm bells, sirens, coyotes howling, you name it, starting going off in my head!
See to your well-being, sweetheart. You deserve SO much more!
Don't believe the hype.....RUN>>>>> and don't look back!