Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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BeckyLP 05/25/2017

I am so heartbroken. I cry a lot and I see that my children see a difference in me. I put my husband out after catching him yet again on dating sites, hook up sites, and other flirting sites. It is not the first time. This time I found text messages between him and a female he met while down at his mom'said house. He swears he never actually had physical contact with the female, but I don't trust that after everything he has put me through. The experts keep saying "see what is wrong with you" , but okay the first time it happened we were very happy, had intimacy, cuddling, outings together, and I though everything was great. Now, when we argue because I am hurting still he says it's not like it was a happy marriage. Of course it wasn't, I am sure every wife wants anot unfaithful lying husband who has secret accounts, carrying on with other women, and acts like she should just get over it for the fourth time!

linny5227 05/25/2017

I feel your pain. My ex-fiance was the same way. I'm sorry you have to go through this, but ultimately it's going to be for the best. I know it's hard when kids are involved, but they don't need to see you hurting all the time because he can't stay completely faithful. They need a positive relationship to emulate and aspire to. I'm still going through the emotions myself since it ended around a month ago, but I know that in the long run this is the best decision.

Dandelion 05/25/2017

Betrayal is very painful.

What I would do is get help for myself and file because I don't tolerate nonsense like that in my life.

The mistake you made was taking him back after the first time.

They don't change. They just get better at hiding it. Or think they do.

There's always an excuse.

I'd be done with him and get myself help pronto because unfortunately we cant divorce the pain they caused us.

The wound is there and it's takes time to heal.

steppingovertheedge 05/25/2017

I'm with Dandelion on this one. I don't see the point to separation (as opposed to divorce), unless your state mandates having a separation period before divorce. The damage is done, and it can't be undone. Even if he repented and begged you on his knees to keep the marriage going, gave you all his passwords, etc - would you ever truly trust him again? I know I wouldn't. So I would go right to divorce and get it over with ASAP so you can start moving on and healing. FWIW, I'm a guy who was betrayed by a cheating now-ex-wife. I know how it feels. Best wishes.

BeckyLP 05/25/2017

Thanks guys!!! I know what needs to be done, so I guess it is time to get it over with and start to pick up the pieces.

paiste7 05/26/2017

My feeling is if a man or woman is married and on dating sites or any of that, they MUST leave their marriage. End of story! They are obviously not committed and obviously not fulfilled.

kqvlv2017 05/30/2017

I am so sorry for this painful situation you are dealing with :( Have you had a chance to talk with a counselor or someone who can give you some emotional support and guidance? And depending on the ages of your children, that might be important for them soon as well. With all the changes in your emotional state and now dad being gone, they will need someone to help them navigate all their feelings.
You mention that this was the 4th time so that clearly represents a pattern of action. But does he seem remorseful at all?

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