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Self-Esteem

tejema
tejema

I'm having a hard time with self-esteem these days.  I was in a relationship for just under 4.5 years and during that time I was very happy and my needs were being met... until they weren't.  I understand it's not good for us to be together.  I am working on accepting this.  While I work through my heartbreak, I am struggling with anxiety and really low self-esteem.  This was my first real legit relationship and I'm struggling with feelings of anxiety and doubt about my future.  I feel like I am going to be alone forever and no man will find me attractive and I lost my only true chance at love.  I am overweight and have been my entire life. I am working on it, having dropped 60 lbs in the last year, but I still feel terrible about myself.  I still have a long way to go.  I will never look the way I want to look and I just can't seem to accept this about myself.  I've never had good self-esteem but ending this relationship has caused these feelings to intensify and bubble to the surface.  It's creating a bad anxiety mix and really negative feelings and self-loathing.  Guess I'm not looking for advice, just need to write it out.  I HATE feeling this way.  :(



-TM

themiddle
themiddle
Hey - don't get down on yourself! I think it is normal for all of us going through a break up to be down on ourselves and questioning our worth. You are doing amazing! 60 pounds in a year is great. Instead on feeling down on yourself use your feelings as motivation to keep moving forward. Hugs to you!!
arfie
arfie
I take it as a good thing that I hate feeling my self-esteem issues. What's to love about feeling hopelessly flawed and inadequate? Can we fast forward to the part where *they* take me out back and shoot me?

Hope writing ^it^ out helped, TM. Writing ^it^ out doesn't always help me feel better, but it helps with the sorting. Sort freely. Sort often.
tynee5511
tynee5511
I have repent old and fat ugly my entire 33 years of life and I am not overweight. If all of the advice that I have been given unprofessionally and things that I have told myself I too have never been able to overcome that I am going to suggest professional help just because and it's been such a deeply rooted long problem and maybe that could be an option to help me to because that's far nothing else has worked.
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