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Ccapril
Ccapril

Hi, i am new. I am a bit sad, i have never been married and i hope to b soon. But i am having a hard time with relationships, its like they always end the same way, cheating and or neglect by my partner. I have had two surgeries in the space of five months and my ex ignored me at a time i needed him the most. 


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Dandelion
Dandelion
Try to tune in to yourself and find what feels right for you.

There is no one answer as we're each different.

It's definitely a journey into yourself and figuring out what YOU need, which goes back to my original statement.

You need to clear up those abuse issues.

You may on some level push things away out of fear or resentment which could be why you end up with unsupportive partners, who knows. Only you can answer these questions.
mirandac
mirandac
I go to alanon and it helps me a lot especially If
you come from a background like mine and i am
A codependent.

Your sexual abuse should Be addresed, you probably
have deep issues that are blocking you to your inner
self. Therapy and/Or a womens trauma/abuse group
Should help plus what ever else works.

Just keep at it. I have shaken every bush i could Find
to get Better and healthier. It takes courage to reach
out for live help and support when you need it, HUGS
Atpeacemary
Atpeacemary
Hugs, my friend. I am crying for you. Really, I know the feeling. I was sexually abused by my mother's brother, my father best friend and then by my father. I was 8 when it started and 16 when I put a stop to it. What I am saying, it is not our fault, not one bit. We should not be the ones ashamed, they are. We are not to blame, the blame is all on them. Do I still feel used, yes. I did not go for "therapy, counselling, nothing. I wish I did. You are young, go out there and enjoy life to the fullest. Travel, pamper yourself. Learn to love and cherish the most important person, that is you. I am sure that you are thinking that you are not worth the effort. But you are. If the right man comes along, he will be the icing on the cake, because that solid foundation will be there. Hugs
Ccapril
Ccapril
Thanks Dandelion and mirandac
Dandelion
Dandelion
Don't allow some sick asshole to transfer his sickness to you by making this YOUR problem.

You're not the problem and don't let someone else's disease speak to you and tell you that you are
Ccapril
Ccapril
Oh my atpeacemary.
Tears, tears, tears.
Ccapril
Ccapril
Don't allow some sick asshole to transfer his sickness to you by making this YOUR problem.

You're not the problem and don't let someone else's disease speak to you and tell you that you are

I agree
Dandelion
Dandelion
That's all it is. Someone else's sickness trying to destroy you.

Walk away from the voice that tries to make it YOUR problem.

Just walk away from it. It can't infect you if you don't accept it
Ccapril
Ccapril
Its a process, and i will get through it, over it, under it and beside it. I will overcome this.
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