Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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FogHornLegHorn 10/05/2016

This week I have decided to put down the beer after work and put my boxing gloves back on, or do anything physical. So far this week I have been boxing 2 times and took a bicycle ride. Being sober make me feel more of the hurt but I can also talk myself out of the normal things I usually do, like text or stalk her fb, sad I know but is reality. The physical activity helps so much, my mind actually leaves her and focuses on what I am doing, or maybe it's the physical pressure on my body out weighs the heart ache. It started to rain while riding my bike today, sounds funny but I smiled like a kid with a pocket full of candy. Not sure why but it was good, and I will take that. Tomorrow is another day, and I think I will deal with it sober as well.

kbbcoop77 10/05/2016

When my wife left I joined a gym and stopped all beer/booze for 8 months. It really helped the healing and helped me focus. Alcohol is a depressant so drinking after a breakup is asking for it. Exercise releases endorphins and naturally makes you feel better. Happy you had a good day, they're important to see you can be happy without your ex.

strongandsilent 10/05/2016

I stopped exercise. Not sure exactly what it was, but whatever hormones were released completely broke down my "wall of control" and I would end up sobbing. One day I ended up sobbing uncontrollably on the side of a path after about 7 Km . A stranger came to ask if I was ok. I could barely see her thru my swollen eyes. I nodded, she stepped back while I continued to sob. No idea how much time went by. It was finally over, I stopped crying, and got up. That woman was still there, with her back to me, facing the running trail, protecting me from onlookers. Our eyes connected. I mouthed "thank you". She nodded, and ran on. I walked home.

I will forever be grateful to her for that simple act of kindness.

I didn't run again for over a year.

You are so lucky exercise gives you strength. Stick to it and don't let go! Completely agree with avoiding alcohol.

MendingAgain 10/06/2016

So glad to hear that you have taken steps to heal in a healthy way. That's awesome, and I am glad to hear about exercising helping, I will do more of that as I too am going through some pretty emotional stuff, but I never drank or did drugs(well except when i was younger) I am 49 now, and now I just seem to go into myself, and drown in my sorrow, so yea I have been walking for the past 3 days, and got fired from my job today, and didn't walk but will get back on that tomorrow, glad to hear your feeling good about your life now. It's inspiring thank you.

STex 10/06/2016

Walking has been great for me. I have been walking for at least 2 hrs every day after work. Those were my previous "happy hours". Keeps me from wanting a drink and gets me out of my chair and helps to clear my mind.

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