Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I was sitting at my desk just reflecting on the past 10 years of my life and I realized something that I had not previously realized. My wife never really gave a crap about how I felt. She never, not once asked me what I did at work, or how my day went. She never asked how I was feeling. She never asked what I wanted. She never really gave a crap. It was always about what was going on in her life. I don't know why it took me so long to realize this and I really don't know why the thought even popped in my head today. Sometimes reflecting on the past will help you to realize the truth. Getting dumped sucks ass, but in reality, sometimes it actually means that you are being given the opportunity to begin your life...
I had lost the 'me' in me over my marriage. I had allowed her to take control of it all. And never once objected, just went with the flow. Because it felt right. So when she changed, I did not know how to react. I was lost.
Gradually though, I rediscovered myself and found that I was still a good man, not a perfect man, we all make mistakes, but a good man none the less.
It is not the beginning of the end of my life, but the beginning of my finding out who I truly am and it is good.
Rman, don't dwell on the past or the why or what ifs. You will go nuts for sure. Look ahead, always forward, because ultimately what's behind you is not important.