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Personality defects

Rman
Rman
Everyone has them. The trick is just trying to find someone who tolerates your defect and whose defect you can tolerate. I mean everyone has issues, right?
ChiTownBear
ChiTownBear
laughed so loud Rocco started to bark...

oh .. and btw ... I would list faults for you? you have faults? nooooo, say it aint so
deleted_user
deleted_user
I have fewer issues than I did 30 years ago.

I still have some to work through.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I think you are right Rman, the key is to find someone who will love you despite your faults ... that's not to say that if we know we have our own issues we shouldn't work on them, 'cuz we should, but I want someone to love me despite the fact that sometimes I have a sharper tone than I think I do, or that I take things a little more personally than I should, or that I'm "over" emotional at times ...

plain cheese, please.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Yep, I think we all have issues, character defects so to speak. Healing from them is the key. Hopefully we all find healing in our lives at some point, I've found some healing for some of my past, now I have added more pain to recover from. Funny thing, my girlfriend told me to disconnet the relationship from the getgo... every time I don't listen to her I get my stupid ass in trouble... Never again, I swear, she's like got a direct link to God or something! Faithful are the wounds of a friend.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I am a worrier. But I know why I got to be that way and I am working on it... For me.
I agree, the key is to truly know if you can deal with your partner's specific flaws and make sure the scale leans way more towards the positive. Acceptance - not trying to change anyone. Let them do that if they want to.