Actually I called him Casey - and he openly admitted that if I wanted a hug, for him to hold my hand or put his arm around me, I'd have to ask for it.

Seriously? Ask for it? "Gee Casey, I need a hug..."

No thanks. I'm a super affectionate person & can't imagine being with someone who is not.

*shiver*

I will add that for many people they equate sex and love and for me that is in no way true - I say for me that is in no way true. Right now the thought of being sexual scares the hell out of me. I know it is illogical - but the first thing the runs through my mind is what if someone finds out? What if they think I was having sex? What if they think I liked it? I don't want anyone to think I was doing that! That really REALLY bothers me...But I am making progress...I can take a shower with the light on now.

shower me with affection and whatever u just said...

With everything going on right now, I would love some affection. How do you deal with not having it? I feel so alone. it is like an itch you can't scratch. can anyone else relate or am i just wierd?

I have a 9 month old puppy. She pees on my foot often, yet every night when I get home from my 2nd job, I take a shower (hehe), sit on the couch and she cuddles right up beside me...no matter what. She's good at showing affection...too bad she isn't a human...but I'll take what I can get...

I totally relate verukas, you're NOT weird.

I'd rather have a night of just 'holding/cuddling', than get laid right now....

dog/cats are great for that affection, aren't they?
oh, and for that itch veruk,
I recommend a lupha... does anybody know how to spell this? spell-check and no clue. they are great at itches

I would say my ex wife but apparently she was just getting the affection from someone else!!!!

thank you Mark. it's rough.

and Dave, I believe it is loofa. thanks for the advice, lol.

loofah.

what I tried to say before is that I have serious personal space issues.

I don't LIKE to be touched. I don't LIKE people that stand close to me when they speak, or reach out to touch me when they're talking to me.

loofah

yes dogs are perfect for that affection need

I am very touchy feely and married a man that has never had that.. he was a little taken off guard and now.. 5 years later, he initiates it and even stated he never knew what he was missing... his parents were not very physically affectionate.. his mother hugs me now also, but not him.. or anyone else in their family... sad really!

Could be worse Rman - you could be me: go to bed alone, wake up alone, no one to greet you when you arrive home from your second job.

I'd take a puppy for affection any day. Like Verukas, I crave and need affection so much that I am afraid what that will lead to if left to my own pursuits.

I am an attention whore. Right now I cannot get enough of it! My dog is awesome, but I just want someone to hold me! And smooch my face, hold my hand. Ef' my stbx for not even giving that to me when we were married!