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Rman 04/12/2010

Do you think that fighting is a bad thing? Whether it's physically, or verbally, doesn't fighting serve some purpose? Would it be weird for someone to enjoy getting punched?

deleted_user 04/12/2010

I like getting hit in Karate.
Makes you realize that its not just practice.
Pumps you up and makes you work harder and smarter.

A little different than what you ask, but using that I plan to do some cage fighting when I am more comfortable. Nothing serious, a match here or there vs equally skilled opponents.

deleted_user 04/12/2010

One of the best therapy I did, putting on the gloves and sparing with someone....

fighting for unreasonable reasons.... not cool.

totallychaotic247 04/12/2010

I enjoy verbal sparring just as much as I enjoy punching the hell out of a bag. Great workouts, one for the mind one for the body. It's been awhile since I have done either. I'm more of a lover than a fighter, but I will fight for what I love, everytime!!

Rman 04/12/2010

What about being punched in the face?

deleted_user 04/12/2010

Fair fights are good.

Bringing up shit repetitively from the past, s/he said garbage and stuff that has already come to a conclusion or things that the other had no control over?

Totally offside.

JennyMe 04/12/2010

need i remind you of bruised ribs and "fighting was stupid"?

deleted_user 04/12/2010

In retrospect, I must enjoy the fights. Having things reinforced in my head.

So yes. I enjoy getting punched in the face because I not only allow it so often, but seemingly seek and encourage it.

Rman 04/12/2010

The biggest irony I can think of is books...
Just kidding...the biggest irony I can think of is that the person for whom you once most loved, can be the person for whom you most hate...
forgive my grammEr, as I'm dumb...

deleted_user 04/12/2010

verbal arguments can solve problems and be normal, as long as you're fighting fair and not name calling, or trying to hurt someone with information you have on them, etc. It's the opposite of sweeping things under the rug, and that can be good and real.

Physical fights... unless you are talking boxing or martial arts or something, no....I don't think that really serves a purpose. I don't know if it's weird to enjoy getting punched, but I haven't ever enjoyed that. I HAVE enjoyed punching the shit out of a boxing bag before. That's good stuff.

deleted_user 04/12/2010

In my youth I was taught that fighting is how real men solve their problems. Swing first...ask questions later.

Thanks for the dysfunctional lesson, step-dad. I'll remember NOT to teach that mantra to my son.

deleted_user 04/12/2010

I get the physical altercation stuff, Fight Club. I haven't done it but I have taken part in activities in which I had to push myself to my physical limits, be smart, even risked my life a few times, and came back bruised and swollen and feeling some sort of pride that I was that resilient, that I conquered it - it didnt conquer me.

Is that what you mean?

And the love/hate thing...different sides of the same coin when you're talking relationships/breakups.