http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9eh0rAUwZSQ

For those who may need it...

I don't know what you call it but I married it. Nobody can make you happy but you. Your life isn't worth living because of who you are with. You can be happy on your own. You have to have a genuine faith in yourself and some good old fashioned self esteem. One of my favorite sayings - When you don't need someone else to make you happy, you can be happy with someone else.

Yep and they act as your crutch. You feel if you don't have them you will fall into the deep blue sea.
But if you remember the bad times you most likely won't walk that path again if you let the person go. Your only other option is to hold onto that person tight. Never let go and show them how much they have done for you and how you want to stay with them forever.
You're stuck at a fork in your life and you are the only one to be able to pick the path you want to go down.

I know it's not a diagnosis, just my thoughts.

I've seen this line many times on ds..... "you had a life before them, you will certainly have a life after them."

i think you might be suffering from depression some. and i also think that you love your family more then anything in the world. you feel overtired, you feel like you don't have a safe space. you try to escape in your beats or poking windchimes. or talking about chili.

overall i think you have come a long way and of course I am rooting for you. i think you are going to take control and turn this thing aroudn here in near future.

but hey what do i know... nothing.. but you asked!

haha hugs

Nobody answered the question.

It's means that you're not being logical. It means that you don't fundamentally understand that there are good and bad times, regardless of the presence of other people in your life.

I don't know if that's the answer that you wanted, but I answered the question.

Nope.

Nope I didn't answer it? Or nope I didn't answer it the way you wanted?

there are always going to be bad times...

you cant appreciate the ups unless you have downs...

It means that you have pedesteled this person to the point that he/she is somewhat of a savior I. Your eyes. You correlate things getting better because of the timing of this person's entry into your life. For whatever reason, you may have made changes to your life because of that person, so they may have been the impetus to good changes. However, the fact remains that only you can make changes to your own life for whatever reason. You need to take credit for that. You can still be grateful for the persons influence but when you give them all the credit for your own actions, you empower them over you. Usually they don't even realize they have that power. Take your power back Rman. It was you, all the time.

agreed

YOU are responsible for your own happiness. The other person only enhances your happiness. It is up to you not them, You have to rely on yourself to do what makes YOU happy even if that means not being with that person.

codependency. am i right am i right?

Yes ... codependency is the answer. Low self esteem plays a big part in it too.