In adding this Comment, I peaselove, do promise to be mice.

*squeak squeak*

(chuckling)

Rman you know you talk with your friends everyday in your special group.

*sigh*

I have been here a while. DS allowed me to create a new account for reasons that I am not going to discuss. I started here in the time of Doug not Team DS as it is refered to now.

These internet friendships will come and go. I have a few friends that I made here on DS that have been my friends online and offline since May of 2007.

Hitting ignore for me isnt an option. I have no issue with any particular people here. I dont live on DS and dont take anything anyone says to me to heart.

Rman I gave you critisism. Do with it what you will. As for the rest I dont care what your opinions of me and what I said about the situation are. Do I have every intentention of continuing to be kind and offering support. Yes will I continue to call it as I see it? Yes I will. That is how I am.

Sometimes you wont like what another person has to say. You dont have to follow their advice. You dont have to follow a group of peoples advice. These are choices that are in your hands.

All of us are in different stages of the healing process. This is not the first time I have seen groups of members banned from DS either. I assure you it will not be the last.

If your hurting come out and say why. I hate blanket statements as well and see them daily here. Come out and say why dont beat around the bush.

But by continuing to make these types of posts it helps no one. It dosnt help Rman. It dosnt help a long time member who needs it. It dosnt help a newbie who is trying to get their footing here.

@LilBipolar

"But by continuing to make these types of posts it helps no one. It dosnt help Rman. It dosnt help a long time member who needs it. It dosnt help a newbie who is trying to get their footing here."

I respect your opinion but have to agree to disagree...

Sometimes posts are not to help anyone, it is a cry for help. Besides the sarcasm, which if you know Rman, you know the latter part of the statement is, I see this as making a statement about missing his support system of friends that you are bound to make after coming to this board over a period of time.

Are we not allowed to post what we feel, oblivious to oldtimers, newbies, Oprah, or anyone thinks about it?

YOU can decide to post what you like, respond to what you like, and ignore what you like.

I think it is a bit self serving and judgemental to make a statement that says it is not helpful. But again I preface what I say...by saying...it is your right to say it...so I will agree to disagree :)

*steps off of soapbox* ....my shiny nickel's worth

Rman

You've been a support to me many times over the last year, even if it was just having someone to yack with on a very late night. We shared a lot of stories with each other, and explored some heavy topics.

I find it difficult to know what's true and what is a story, what's serious and what's a joke. I get caught in the wrong many times with your posts The contradictions are confusing, but then I can remember vividly how confusing and ever-changing my thoughts and feelings where during the worst of those times. I wish I was better at deciphering quickly what it is you wanted to express, or were hoping to receive.

What I know for certain is, you are valued here not just by me but by many many members who like you and have your back....and who wish better days for you.

I know the large number of us who continue to be here and continue to support you may not be the kind of support you value or want, but I hope you can see that even though the DS roster has changed by a few names, you are certainly not alone, or not cared about.

((hugs))

lilBP - you can see what the post is about from the TITLE

If it doesn't appeal to you, move on
I am Rman's friend and don't appreciate your "I'll say what I want to say regardless of what you think" attitude

If you want to counsel Rman on his posts, send him a PM. Otherwise, STFU

I've been here over a year. When I first joined the group, I angered many and it was not my intention, so, I backed away from the group. After taking time to reflect, I realized that I was projecting and looking to grind an axe. So, I've stuck to just reading.

I've seen the trend here. I must admit, this group has changed and not for the better. I see people who felt targeted, targeting. How is that for peace? I see the poorly tattooed old timer come here and did exactly what the forum used to do. She gave her opinion whether it was liked or not because she can. What has changed is the fact that once you voice the opinion, you now get in trouble.

I just read the thread of the support for captiva. I saw a few people that are no longer in the forum put differences aside to help out. Hell, some of them I couldn't stand but, I figured that variety is the spice of life and I learned from them.

I guess I should stop given that I may revert to my anger stage and say things that now, constitutes a banning offense.

Rman, as I said, I am more of a lurker and I read a lot. Some of your posts annoyed the shit out of me but, somedays, it made me laugh out loud. I wasn't sure if I was grateful for the laugh or mad at you for breaking my iced over heart.

Regardless of a few that practices the perpetuation of ill will or, those taking a shot at those that were, I wanted to say that I am sorry that you feel like you lost your friends here. I don't have any so, by choice, but, if you want to be my friend, I will be one. Don't expect much, I'm still damaged goods. But, I have been good about not going off on the nonsense I read here. I love my prozac right now. Cheers.

OK...as usual, I'm really late coming into this....but those of you that feel you have been attacked, and are now telling others to just ignore you if they don't like your "attacking" words....TAKE YOUR OWN ADVICE!!

Rman, and many others, are allowed to be upset with all the banning that has gone on and having lost a big part of his/their support group. I've rarely ever seen Rman seriously hating on anyone here...there's been once or twice that I've seen in the 5 1/2 months I've been here. LET THE MAN MOURN THE LOSS OF HIS FRIENDS FROM DS!!!! Yes, some of them may have violated the RoR, but there are also some that didn't....as LKess brought up...blanket statements....THEY SUCK!

Those of us that are still here obviously still feel the need for support....and in some cases, it happens to be in addition of a failed/failing relationship....if you don't want to offer support to those that are grieving, then don't comment on their posts....We all need to make use of the ignore function when we can't handle dealing with someone on here, or we need to be grown up and be civilized with eachother, even if we disagree with one another...it is impossible for everyone here to be completely agreeable about EVERYTHING. Why can't we just agree to disagree on some things??

The attacking needs to stop....on all sides of the matter....we're here for support....if you have support to offer someone, thats great and wonderful....if you have nothing to offer someone...just leave it at that and move on to something else....

Rman - I for one am here to be supportive to you...and I am sorry that you and I and several other people have lost a lot of our friends and support system due to the bannings that have taken place....its bad enough to be having problems in your relationship, but then to have all this other crap happen, it sucks....and I am really sorry you're having to go through the loss of your support system. There are still some of us here though that are here for you, and I'm sure there are new people that will be here to support you as well...

OK....I'll step off my soap box now....

HI Miss JJ

Hi GSCH

Not reading all the posts. Could have sworn i've read all this before anyway. I know you are in pain, but 80%? Murder? Use the site or not. Use the people that are here for you or not. I am not here as much because of all the changes. My trust is pretty shot. I do have friends here still though, so it's hard to leave. You're still here for a reason right?

Miss JJ I do understand that if people lose their friends that they are close to they are going to morn. BUT it is like this guy I saw last week while having lunch. He was dressed very poorly and he was asking for money at a intersection. After about an hour he walked away and got in to a nicer car then I can afford. Rman talks to his friends all the time.

GSCH - if you don't care for what you think is HYPOCRISY then put Rman on ignore and don't read the threads that say RMAN on them.

I'm tired of you jumping into my friend Rman's threads and beating him down.

STFU

G - maybe he does talk to them elsewhere....but its still not the same as on DS....DS was like the safe haven to come to to talk about the more serious stuff...maybe that won't make sense to some...but thats how it is....