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opinion about getting back together

shantellew
shantellew
Ok, you guys are all so good at advice and have opinions I respect...Do you think its ever possible to reconcille a broken marriage? The problems are still basically there, but maybe I"ve lowered my expectations or maybe just lonely and can't let go. We've both become stronger people, and have changed in some ways. Everyone I know says its NOT possible, its like just stirring the pot of misery even longer. Does it ever work? So far all I've gotten even from his ex wife was it never works, move on. move on. move on. What do ya'll think?
deleted_user
deleted_user
i've never been married. but i was in a serious relationship. we broke up over a year ago.. didn't talk for a few months.. then started reconnecting again.. i know he loved me and didn't wanna let me go. but at the same time he didn't wanna commit to me. it tortured me for 6 months. i kept wondering, when will he commit? and it got to a point where i told him i just wanted to be friends, because i couldn't handle being in limbo anymore. and shortly after he started seeing someone else and things got really messy. i feel that if i had just let go when we first broke up, i may have been "over" him by now. but then again, i don't exactly regret the past year. i learned a lot and now i can truly say that i gave it my all.

if you want to date him again, you have to go into it with an open mind. you have to be prepared for anything. because you never know, he could turn around and be like, "i want to be fully committed to you" or he could end up stringing you along. i usually don't agree with time limits but in this case it doesn't sound bad. just, whatever you do, stay true to yourself. if you start to feel like you're being strung along, listen to yourself, and know you deserve better. in the end that saved me.