Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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On a serious note

Rman
Rman
I am a lost soul. Many here feel the same way as I do...it sucks, but it will get better. I joke to distract too much thinking. Hope that sick feeling in the stomach goes away soon...I'll get back to joking now...
mavsgirl
mavsgirl
rman - A very smart woman told me today to keep crying when my eyes teared up. To let it out, that by holding it in, I was just putting a band-aid on it. That I'm never going to let the pain heal if I just keep sticking band-aids on it.

I am scared to death of letting my true self be seen. Heck, I don't even KNOW myself anymore, but I am NOT going to let myself end up in another relationship where I am scared to create any ripples in the water.

The fear of being honest with myself and others is keeping me nauseaus, but I need to work through this pain and fear to be happy again.

You know we're here for you if you need to let it all out!
LKess
LKess
You are an asset to this board and you know that. Your support here......yeah you have no clue how much this group would do for you.... I'm glad to see you venting.....I hope you keep doing it.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Rman, if you're leaving, I'm leaving.

I'm not kidding.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Yeah, right, like possible for both of ya, WE WILL NOT LET YA!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Rman, if you need to deal with this problem, whatever it is, e.g. you are still married, you have two (?) wonderful kids, you all still live together, I am not at all sure what the real prob is. Anyway, you seem to have lots of people here to help you with it. You have gotten away with being stagnant and stuck, and not getting spoken to strongly, for way longer than most who come 'round here. Sometimes I wodner why you don't receive the benefit of the tough love offered in abundance here. Sometimes I think you are getting the short end of the stick, not getting your ass kicked when you need it, like the rest of us here on DS. I encourage you to buckle down and do the necessary work. You have been here a long time, and everyone admittedly has to deal with this break-up & divorce stuff in their own time, but why not take a leap and get the work done already? Lately, you talk more and more about sex with women, and your pee-pee, it makes me wonder what kind of work you really need to get done, but that's up to you. I may not be one you want to turn to for help (altho if you ever get serious about doing break-up and divorce work, I will be here for you) but you have so many fans here who will help you -- sometimes I wonder why they don't tell you to get with it already!
deleted_user
deleted_user
It will get better for you. Just hang in there:)