Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Ive been doing great for weeks. Ready to grab single life by the horns and ride off into the sunset, and then yesterday happened. Hearing her admit to having feelings for another man was something I was unprepared for. Ive known in my heart for a long time that she has feelings for him and ive assumed that they have having an affair. So why in the hell is this so painful all of a sudden. All the weepyness has returned. Went to work today in full zombie mode. Wearing my sunglasses as much as possible to hide my puffy red eyes.
Im so frustrated. I had convinced myself that I was over this stage. I have not seem my therapist in a few weeks because I felt I didnt have anything to talk about. I scheduled an appointment today for next week.
I just feel so worthless and betrayed. There has been no mourning for her. She has never been bothered bybthe whole situation because this is what she wanted. She has already moved on. I cant believe that after 20 years together she could be swept off her feet on a two week business trip. I cant believe Im going through this again. The pain is just as real as last time, if not worse. I just cant stop myself from thinking about the two of the going out to our old resturants and hangouts. Sitting down in the evenings after work and cusdling on the couch watching all of the shows we used to watch.
I was set up to have a great day. The weight of telling the kids had been lifted. I even told my parents and they took it better than I thought they would. I went to sleep prepared to wake up focused on the boys and continuing to help them. When I woke this morning I knew right away those plans were out the window. The all too familiar gloom and doom feeling filled me from head to toe and I didnt even want to get out of bed. Im not holding back. Im letting the tears rain as much as they want too Im hoping that this is going to be a short lived hiccup. Im sure it wont be the last but I feel like I need to be focusing on helping my boys and I cant do that feeling like this. Bad spouses really suck!
I know it hurts, I know you will cry and it's ok. I cried it out last night and felt awful and felt like there was no way I could feel any better, but then I did.
U knew what was going on in the back of your mind, be thankful you now have clarity. Good luck
You need to let yourself grieve. This is a hard
Long roller coaster ride. I like to think i got it all
Figured out and i am cured then i get triggered
And the tears start. Its not anywhere near what
It was, now its on a deeper level though my grief
And recovery work.
Keep going to your therapist many do doing
The divorce process to get in touch with your
F&E. They are huge and overwhelming at DC
We worked on rage and forgiveness. I had so
Much divorce rage it scared me. I got in there
Eventually and i did forgive myself and my ex
Its still a ongoing struggle.
I am just being honest Where i am truly at. I
want to get off this journey a healthy whole
person, it is a lot of hard soul searching Work.
For you to To get to the other side don't expect
you Will fly thru this. The betrayal, rejection and
Abandonment plus much more take lots of time
to process and move Thru. HUGS
I feel for you. Grief is like a tidal wave that comes out of nowhere and knocks you off your feet, bashes you on the rocks and spins and drags you through a riptide. But, it does eventually spit you back up on shore. Spent. But alive.
As time goes on, the storms come more seldom. They are shorter. And they take less out of you.
I'm just over 2 years out of being blindsided when my husband of almost 15 years told me he was having an affair and leaving me. It takes a long time.
Hang in there. You are surviving.