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tabatha 02/13/2017

I can't stop having hope this will work itself out and I know that's not good for my healing but my situation doesn't make sense to me. He would always say he would never leave but with his depression ... our dog dying...his best friend passing from cancer...full time school ...debt ...and meds ( adarall) that he was abusing everything just took a turn. Without me asking he reassures he's not doing anything wrong just staying at his moms and he's not going to take action until school is over in 4 months He's not been living at home since our last fight three weeks ago... which was about he feels unhappy and says I'm the reason. I promised to do better and change the things I've done wrong meaning not causing stress while he finishes school ...but he just keeps saying I promised before and haven't changed I feel like if I do nothing I'm missing a chance to fix our marriage but he doesn't want to change his mind And really won't communicate with me anymore just texts me when he wants to visit the dogs and then asks me not to be there when he comes home. We've been together 20 years I'm eight years older than him and have no career or future scared to death where I will end up but more scared I will live my life without him.

shelda 02/13/2017

This is a sign to me that it is time to take care of you now. You can not live in fear for the rest of your life that he will leave you. Unhealthy and too stressful. It is time for you now..I'm in this exact state. My husband died and now I'm not sure what to do where to how to when..the lists is endless.I have no choice and it sounds like that to me about you both. This is just from what I read..But don't be scared cause it causes anxiety disorders.

tabatha 02/13/2017

I am so sorry about your husband passing and I understand about making this life about me ... I am trying

Babyluv 02/13/2017

We're almost in the same situation and I feel your pain!! I'm holding on, hoping for a phone call or text and it's making me suck to my stomach!! Someone told me I have to love myself first......don't give up on yourself!!

serenityspeaks 02/13/2017

The best thing is to focus on You right now. Give him space he needs as he needs to stay focus. He may be done or he may just need space. Either way his choice is his. I hope it works out. Stress is hard on relationships.

ripped_my_heartout 02/13/2017

Hope is all I have. Hope for a better future. Hope to get through all this and keep my sanity. Hope for my children's futures. Hope that one day I'll look back and this just be a blip in my time line. I'll be happy and full of life again. Like being reborn or given a 2nd chance at happiness. What I once thought was happiness turned out to be poison. 22 years together and all her negativity really changed me. I'm working on changing back to the old me. The happy me. I hope you have hope for the future too. Stay strong and look after yourself. That is important.
-HUGS-

GettingBetterEveryday 02/13/2017

@rippedmyheartout
Thanks for your last response. I've been feeling really discouraged and trying to stay positive. I completely relate to everything you just said. I'm hoping to keep my sanity and hoping that better days are just around the corner! Trying to stay strong and roll with the punches....

nanacarol 02/17/2017

I hope things are getting better. 20 years is a long time. It shows that ya'll know it's better to fix what's broken instead of just throwing it away. There is always hope. You can't always help someone find their happiness and joy unless you have it for yourself. Have you made any steps that? I know it can't be easy at times. When you are around other people that seem to just have a pure joy glowing even though you know their lives aren't perfect do you wonder how? Joy comes from a peace within and happiness comes from our surroundings and what's going on in life. I'm sure there are some support groups maybe at a local church that where you could step out and join so you could start surrounding yourself with people that can help. Also here is some information that might be a help understand more about depression. http://bit.ly/2m3Q7kj
Understanding more how he feels is great. You also need to deal with how you feel. Here is a site you can check out to find help with that. http://bit.ly/2m3RMXd.
I hope this helps. Always keep this tucked away in your heart. "I know the plans I have for you says the Lord." Jeremiah 29:11 . You have a purpose. You are needed.

joe14291 02/17/2017

Try and take care of yourself and stay strong. My x wife split with my 18 yo daughter about a month and a half ago. I felt sick to my stomach this past month, today out of the blue, my daughter stopped by, and we went out for dinner. I prayed a lot. Dont lose faith)

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