There is a little part of me that wants to ask his 2 sisters if the times that he went to visit them (they live out of town) if he took her with him or if he was actually telling me the truth that he went by himself.

I'm not sure what good it would do, I just want to know how much of what he said was the truth and how much was lies.

I don't understand your particular pain as we all process things differently but I do understand the physical pain I went through when my spouse of 20 years decided to tell me about how he is no longer in love with me but is in love with a woman he has had an on/off relationship for 22 years. yes longer than we have been together. He keeps telling me it hasn't been easy for him to make this decision but I think it has. How does someone do this to someone else they supposedly loved/loves without it being easy for them. making the decision to be callous, cold and ultimately a selfish prick is very easy for them. I can not help you find an answer about making it easier because it has been 4 months since my relationship started dying and I still haven't figured it out. I am sorry you are going through this but you are not alone. I felt very alone after all this but this website really made me feel less alone. I hate saying it but time will make it better.....or so they keep telling me it will.

I totally understand. My husband just abandoned me 4 weeks ago and I have not seen or heard from him. It's crushes your heart!

I was in a store yesterday and a man kept following me down the isles. He finally initiated conversation with me and then asked if I was married. I about burst into tears right there. I said yes and I hurried out of the store. It's just so hard to acknowledge that your husband left you and you are now separated.

I don’t know if it is easy for them... but I do know that they are “ahead” of us. They had been disconnecting for a long time and we didn’t know it. But the time they leave, they have already moved on.... but we are just starting..

Give yourself a lot of time... and love... and don’t ask the sisters, I doesn’t matter.

Sorry for your pain .I understand.I am there and all you want is to come up for air from the pain- Its called a painless cloud.Picture this. there is a specific cloud in the sky just for you-when you reach it an angel awaits upon it just for you. This angel and this cloud especially designed just for you.The angel gently
lifts one wing, it's soooooooooooooooooo heavy ( like the pain steady weight
of your pain that bears you down- like makes you feel like crawling.The angels
wings are so heavy to absorb all this pain as the angel ushers you to step
on to the cloud.You step on because you are so weary and exhausted at this point. But when you put your foot on the cloud you notice a lightness in your
mind,you step further, a lightness in your heart and as you lay down on this cloud all the pain, hurt , anguish, lies, imperfections, human conditions vanish.
Try this think and believe it to be so,We all have a guardian angel that is there to protect us,assigned to us.You have a choice to give the pain away every time
you feel it-give it away, every time you think it, or see the pain call on this angel, lay it down on this cloud where you will feel no pain-give it back.Then the angel returns all those heavy burdens of pain to the sender- you guessed
it.The angel has to return it so its wings can be lightened to take on another person after you-their burdens and pain. Treat yourself love yourself now more than ever.Hugs

so sorry your going through this speak positivity into your life . I am currently separated from my husband and keeps saying hes never coming back and he has a new girlfriend my heart breaks everyday I open my eyes but the fact that I did open my eyes tells me god has a plan for me I hope your find peace my love

It is tough when someone we love walks out on us. Time is the best healer. Everything happens for a reason though. I have been there so I know how painful it can be. Remember, you are never alone. There is always a Force watching over us. Open your heart to healing. Letting go sometimes is the best remedy. Be well!

I would avoid details. I know you want an explanation. We all do. Unfortunately they can’t give us one. Because I believe they are totally confused. We have to sort it out. To justify an affair, our SO’s go through some mental gymnastics to make themselves believe they are in the right. There is no real world where that is true. So they will live in fear that they are out of control of themselves. I can’t imagine the guilt and doubts. I know it hurts, but you are still you. They gave up some of themselves and may never get it back. Unless we forgive them. Remember that you have dignity. That’s something that only you can restore to them. It could be seen as a place of power. Not going to their level for any reason will keep it intact.

Hi there, you know, when two people get together, there is a bond, a soul tie, if you will. That is not so easily broken just because one leaves the marriage. Do you think you are pining away for what you used to have? when it was good? not for a man that is cheating on you? I know the shock is terrible and I am sure all hope is gone. Have you thought of seeing a counselor? Maybe they could help give you insight and support you as you walk through this difficult time. I know I so appreciated a counselor during the time of my separation and divorce. If he wanted to come back, do you think there is any hope of reconciliation? Can you forgive him? I know these are hard questions, but maybe ones you may want to think about. Can you Take some steps to take care of yourself during this time?

i've been through it. it is easy for the one that leaves. since they were cheating while married to you, they were never really all in, when you understand that - you'll likely feel worse, because them you'll know that they just used you, yep you were all in, loved - committed - gave & and they just used you up.

then you'lll realize you loved a mask, an act, a phony

then you'll start to get on with your life

Yes, happened to me. Don't know how they can do it after decades together. Mine left for someone they knew for three months, just one day, up and left. They get confused. And it has been back and forth for five months now.

I found hobbies. All you can really do is focus on yourself and your happiness. Still, you can try to make it work. But, you need to do new things or the pain will go on and on.

It will be hard at first to do something new. Your head will be in pain and your focus bad. But, each time you do it you will get better focus.