Well you have come to a great place! You will meet so many nice people here with great advice. I am sorry for what you are going through right now. Each and every one of us here is going or has gone through this and it is a devastating time. Lean on friends and family, and especially us. We are all here for you.

We are here for you. Message me anytime. It is a very very hard time.

Oh thank you! I feel so alone and so lost.

How does one cope with the extreme loneliness? It physically hurts.

Hi hon. you are definitely in the right place. Without knowing any of the detail I am in a similar situation. Mom of 2 boys one teen one tween, married for 16 years together for 22, husband left and we have been apart for almost 3 months now. It is so hard especially those first few months. And especially when you have kids together. I agree with SBC lean on anyone you can at this time friends, family, and all of us. Feel free to message me too if you need to talk. I am always here and knowing from experience it is almost easier to talk to a stranger that has been through something similar and can empathize than it is to talk with someone that knows both of you. And I know at this point it is the only thing you can think and talk about. Hugs!

Thank you so much! The evenings are the worse. I am always trying to reach out but my friends don't always know what to say and I feel like such a burden on everyone because I am not in a good place. Plus I don't want to ruin any friendships because I'm so miserable right now. :( thank you for your support.

They may not know what to say, but true friends will be there for you regardless. My ex-husband and I had tons of friends together, Most went away when we separated for whatever reason, but my TRUE friends stuck around and have been listened to me cry, throw things, etc all along lol.

Sorry for all your pain and hurt, most of us
Know it all too well.

I think divorce care and therapy help a lot
During these times. Let yourself grieve your
Losses, be patient and loving to yourself.

Often time we can be a burden to our friends
And family thats why the suggestion of support
Groups. Churches are great too. My therapist
keeps Me on track in my recovery and in my
thinking.

Keep reaching out here and with loving caring
healthy people. Families can be a mixed blessing,
They takes sides and get angry, thats not helpful
To us. We have enough on our own plate. HUGS

They all mean well and they always say they are there for me but when I actually do need something they seem more busy than not. It's quite upsetting and just makes this process even harder so I have found myself not reaching out as much anymore even though I need to so bad. I want to be with my friends. Being alone is not good for me. This is why I am reaching out here. It has been so bad at times I had to reach out to a 24/7 suicide hotline (3 times). The thoughts would just get too intense. I could never do that to my kids but that's how bad it's been. I reached out to my therapist and have been prescribed medication to help my depression and anxiety. It is starting to help. I am so overwhelmed with it all.

It's hard with the friends. Especially if they are mutual friends. I was very lucky and i have an amazing support system between work and friends. But the nights really are the worst. Once the kids go to bed and the day to day nonsense is over. I'll tell you i started turning the tv off, taking a nice hot shower, lighting some nice smelling candles and playing the radio helped a lot. If i had to cry I cried. But every day got a little easier. And then I found myself being surprised when I had a good day here and there. It comes slowly but it does come. I will advise trying to find a therapist too. That has been a huge help to me

Sorry to you for this horrible time,you're in the right place here for people that know where your at right now,

Thank you Thank you Thank you!

I'm here if you want to message me...
Any time. I'm here..

Thank you so much

thank you for sharing. i definitely feel for you. there is a book called 'the universe has your back', by gabby bernstein that has helped me. the book is saying the same thing that many books say, that our thoughts create physical changes to our cells and the world around us. that we always have a choice to be positive or negative, even in situations like this. to see things as they are or to collect evidence to fuel our fears. regaining a trust in the universe that things will be ok.