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Poetic_Disaster
Poetic_Disaster

Hey everybody I am new to the group and in such a bad place with my marriage right now..... We have been officially separated in separate homes since March 2017  due to my husband being unfaithful with NUMEROUS different women and spreading STDs etc.... I am currently expecting baby #4 due in August with my husband and I feel so lonely and angry at myself.... A huge part of me wants this marriage to work but I know he doesn't want to change his ways.... He taunts me everyday by expecting me to still do everything for him but nothing in return so when I don't do it he throws in my face this is why I don't wanna be with you etc.... I don't even know why I would want to work it out with someone who has done me so wrong.... Mind you my husband is 29 years old and a pastors kid he is back at home with mommy and daddy.... Back drop on his parents.... His parents dont like me because I am not black his dad isnt really the issue more so his mom but it is mainly due to race and the fact my husband had lied and turned us against eachother.... Am I stupid for hoping maybe one day things could work? 

mjc522
mjc522
Your not stupid, I know it's hard to leave a relationship even when it's unhealthy. My marriage to my ex wife was very unhealthy and it took a lot of will power to leave her.
strongandsilent
strongandsilent
Sigh, wouldn't it be nice if it could all magically turn around? What you are morning is the loss of a dream - the dream of a happy "traditional" family where you all love and support each other and live happily to old age in each other's warm embrace.

So, you don't have that. That dream is not happening. But it is the dream, not your husband, that you are mourning... and.... you will mourn it for a while. But, time to move on and start building a new dream.

Good luck!
refurb
refurb
Unrealistic yes,
A serial cheater loves only themselves and uses everyone else
Poetic_Disaster
Poetic_Disaster
You guys are right... It is just so hard I loved my husband I dont know if it's just my pregnancy hormones or what as to why I feel like I can't let go.... But yes this feeling feels like death I feel like a part of me has died :/ but I do know I have to move on I am just having trouble doing so
vwidow
vwidow
Someone described adultery like having your guts pulled out and strewn around the street for everyone to see and trample. Nothing - the marriage vow isn't honored and everything is defiled. "Cheating" is such a light word for the devastation that this is. My sympathy to you and pray God will show you his wholly trustworthy self. Acts 2:38 Acts
22:16 Mark 16:16
Nightowl79
Nightowl79
Ur not stupid that's why u love him, is cuz he's the father of ur kids. U will always have love for him wether you guys are together or not, but anyways if he's out there sleeping around, YOU DON'T NEED THAT!!! Your prego with his child, he should be waiting on you hand and foot. Taking care of you not hurting you. Once a cheater always a cheater. I think if you two really love each other and wanna work it out, I think marriage counseling would be beneficial. Just don't blame yourself and get down. Take care of yourself lil mommas!! Good luck!!!
auntierhon55
auntierhon55
Ending a relationship isn't easy even if it's an unhealthy one. I want to congratulate you on the baby. I am sure the baby will be a blessing. Try and focus on that. A new life, brings with it so many possibilities. Hang in there.
mlr0853
mlr0853
Your Health is Most Important for You First, your children next....I know you can't run...maybe waddle as Fast As You Can...yes, very hard to do, fear etc, hope you'll make the best choice for you and your kids~~~
Spr167
Spr167
Watch, one of those kids is going to grown up and be rich and famous. Looks at the Braxtons. Its hurt now bc the babies are little. But only God and time will tell. Stay strong I know its hard but you WILL survive and get through this storm.
drcat40
drcat40
I personally think when we meet somebody we think they would change overtime, but I think in most cases, it does not work like that . Try to put your faith god and focus on yourself and your kids to be the happiest you can be. I have been married for almost 12 years and today I am in a situation in which we are basically living together but not love at all. He is the type of person who is thinking 24 hours about money and that is all what he thinks about. I am trying to work on myself and be happier for my 2 kids. But if you think he is not putting no effort in changing his ways , do not lose extra years in that .
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