Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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bakerygirl727 09/04/2016

really needing some good advice on how to let go of some one. I dated this man for 2and a half years and over a year ago he broke off the relationship. I have only dated one man since then and that didn't work out, but me and the ex are good friends now, but I want to let go and not have feelings for him. I try so hard to not text him or even see him( he usually comes over once a month) I can't take feeling like this anymore. I guess I still have a little love for him. But he doesn't have those feelings for me. Just wish I could let go or do something to really get his attention on me again. Any good advice would be great

gabby2100 09/04/2016

I've to admit that I may be in the same situation in a few days unfortunately. However, you have to ask yourself if you are willing to deal with the same issues that were apart of your relationship before. Sometimes people change for the better. Will that be the case if you two get back together? If you truly wish to move on...then do so by finding other people and activities to be involved with. Try not to make yourself available for him to see you whenever he wants to. Work on making yourself better for you before trying to become involved with someone else or even the same guy. Just something that I've been through before and trying to help. Best wishes.

Carm416 09/04/2016

Why are you still in contact with your ex? Do you have children together?

samantha717 09/04/2016

I agree that you need to stop all contact with him, period. Why torture yourself like that? It's like quitting smoking. You aren't going to be successful if you allow yourself to smoke sometimes. You have to go cold turkey. Also, try to get more involved in other activities so you can meet new people and not have time to think about him. It's not easy to get over someone who doesn't share the same feelings as you, but think about this ... could that be why you still have feelings for him? Because he is emotionally unavailable? When someone breaks off a relationship with us, sometimes we have a need to win them back just to show them what a mistake they made in letting us go in the first place. That's a real easy trap to fall into.

lb7268 09/04/2016

No not easy to try to refocus someone's attention. If you can be friends that is great. If you desire more, probably not wise to be friends then.

bakerygirl727 09/04/2016

I know what I have to do, but it's hard to let go, I pray about it everyday. I ask for gods help to help me let go, but nothing seems to work. And I have met someone new. Getting to know him and just found out he lives one block over from my ex :-(

MTGrl 09/04/2016

I did this with an exbf...it was torturous. I suggest to break it off altogether.

mirandac 09/05/2016

Go NO CONTACT it helps a lot, if you are bonded
And they are not or just unwilling it is just plain old
Misery. Stay NO CONTACT no social media, no Texting
or seeing him at all. It will never get better Or healthier.

It just wears you down and your self respect, self esteem
and Self worth all plummet for what ? what would be your
Gain? I was so lonely and hurt when my ex was checked
out and i was living With him it was emotional torture. HUGS

Lonestar 09/05/2016

I am still in love with my ex but I know if I stay in touch with him at all -as his friend- I will stay in pain because of what we can't have together. Your ex is getting the best of both worlds - staying in contact with you and having relationships of his own.

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