I understand that you loved this young man. Breaking up is never easy. You sre young yourself a d, believe it or not, you will find love again. It takes time a d I am proud of you for not reverting to self harming. I am here if you wish to converse further.

I am so sorry that your suffering from this separation from your boyfriend. It is so hurtful to know that someone you loved has moved on. I know, I’ve been there, too.

I’m so glad that you are not hurting yourself; you are worth loving and you need to know that you are worth it!

Have you thought about joining a young person’s group at church? I found that being involved with a singles group was a lot of fun. The people respected one another, and it was a safe place to just relax and encourage one another. They were also good at helping me to get past the pain. I pray that you start to feel better.

I only know that you will look back and wonder why you lost any sleep over this guy but there is no easy way to fast forward this episode. You will need to heal in your time. There are distractions and very needy people who would appreciate you with the big heart. Volunteer at an animal shelter, read the news paper to an elderly person or feed the sea gulls. Your goodness would be welcome. Hurting like you are is good reason for some of us to replay over and over our disappointments and failures. Try to keep busy. Visit your library and borrow an audio book. Relax and let the story take your mind away and lighten your heart. You will find that your "insides" are feeling longer and longer periods of wellbeing. We are stronger then we think.

I am so sorry you are going through so much pain over the break up with your boyfriend. I was with my husband 30 years, married 21. I found out he has been cheating with my best friend of 35 years. So believe when I tell you I can relate. Of course our situation is a lot more complex, but basically the damage is done is the same. You feel lost because he isn't in your life the way he used to be. Your hurt because he betrayed your love for him. You feel emply and alone. I feel all of those things too. Now is a time when you need to find that inner strength. It is there but it takes some work to utilize. I know you said you were inseperable but I am sure you have friends. Turn to them. Go out, have fun, let them help you through. I was not as fortunate because I lost my oldest closest friend in all of this and had to deal with it myself except for my therapist. Go see your school counselor. Talking about your feelings and what you are going through really does help. If you want to talk to me feel free. First I had to deal with just the pain of separating from my husband; it wasn't until later that I found out she had been talking to him for almost a year luring him in and when I found out they had been physically seeing each other for months; even while he was coming back to me for sex and telling me he wanted to come home. You are young and resilient; more resilient than you realize. Look back on the relationship and evaluate the things you didn't really see or chose not to see because it was negative. That will help you look at the relationship in a different light; maybe help you to realize that it wasn't the best for you. Love is a hard thing; especially when our love is not returned. What's most important is to remind yourself that you are young and should focus more on doing what makes you happy. Right now you feel like you will never be happy again but trust me you will. I will be 50 soon so starting over for me was very hard as well. Talk to yourself, boost your own confidence. It may sound silly, but it helped me since I didn't really have anyone to talk to. Most of all rely on family and friends to help you. Don't let your emotions bottle up because it will eat away at you. If after 30 years with someone I survived believe me you will too. Focus on everything you have to offer this world and pursue your interests. If there is a hobby or something you really like to do, do it more. Staying busy helps. It might also help to start looking at other guys with interest. Think about the guy of guy you are drawn to and why. Focusing on others will help you to realize there are a lot of choices out there. You have only scratched the surface. I never thought I would date again much less love again. Just like you I was comfortable. The thought of starting over with someone new was stressful. I didn't want to be with anyone else. But you have to remind yourself you can't be with someone that doesn't want to be with you and you have to move on. Face the fact you have been given no choice. I said I wouldn't date and definitely would never marry again. I would never risk being hurt again. I truly believe I would never love again. Now I have met someone that treats me better than I have ever been treated. That calls me beautiful and tells me I am amazing all the time. I never knew what it was like to hear those things. Divine intervention, fate, spirituality, what ever you believe in takes care of us and has a plan. In the meantime you will go through the stages of grief the same as if someone you love has died. You need to embrace it. Cry when you feel you need to, scream and yell when you feel like you need to, be sad when you need to but don't let it linger. You have the strength within you to get through and move on; you just have to believe it for it to happen. Whenever something like this happens to me and I have a surge of pain I repeat the Serenity Prayer too myself until the surge is gone. The pain won't go completely away but it always help. You are young and strong. Be confident. The world is waiting for you. Don't waste it on one guy who can't see everything that you are and will be. There is someone out there for you the timing isn't right yet. Feel free to message if you want. I know talking as much as you can helps. It gets it out of your head. This site helped me a great deal with my situation.

I know I am a little late to the party here but I want to tell you my story and tell you some things that I have learned from it.
This is all recent and am only 22

So I had been dating a girl for 4 years, all through college, we basically lived together as we stayed together literally 24/7. Well when we graduated things started to go down hill, she wouldn’t talk to me as much (lived in different cities) we would see each other every other week, but somehow no matter what it just didn’t seem to help at all. I had taken her brother and sister to my families place at the beach and then even helped her when she was ready for her first big job. Come to find out in August she met someone new and even told me she wanted to get to know the guy better, “as friends” but as you can guess it turned into a full emotional relationship. She had no guilt about it because after I gave her another chance it happened not 3 months later. She felt no guilt or remorse, and I’m here wondering how she could have treated me so badly or why she just doesn’t care, I haven’t talked to her in two months and although she claimed she loved me and cared, if you did you would reach out, which she hasn’t.

Sometimes, some people are just terrible people, they always want more and are never happy with the person who would do anything for them, I may have ended my relationship but I still felt committed to her and loved her even today, you can’t change how people act or who they are, and although it hurts the best thing you can do is what’s best for you.

Do you want to be with someone that is easily pulled to another woman?

Do you want to be with someone that can fall out of love that quickly?

There are a lot of good people out there that would never do this to another person, unfortunately most of us have gotten one of the bad ones. Now you know what you want in a person, what makes a good guy, surround yourself with friends, and hell I don’t know how old you are but get on tinder and talk to some guys (I don’t mean date, talking to nice guys will help you get past the fact that he was like that) I’ve met some really nice people on tinder that I’m not dating but are good friends now.

You have to use what happened to you as a light, someone is giving you a chance to really find happiness with the right person, you will find a guy that you do everything with and at the same time would never betray or go behind your back, the first month is hard, but it is doable. Best of luck, if you want to talk you can always message me

I'm very sorry to hear what has happened. You are not alone in that many of us have been devastated by realizing the "love of your life" has easily disposed of you and will never love you again.
When we want to believe something it's so easy to fool ourselves. Suddenly all those hours every day that you used to spend thinking of your "love" are now spent in misery and loneliness.
Don't bother trying to talk to someone, they don't care. When you try to tell them and realize nobody cares the depression gets even worse.
It happened to me and I still feel like such a fool. We work together and it's as if it never happened. I suspect she has found someone else, but I'm not going to try to pry as that will not help me.
Animals don't understand people but you can hug them and love on them and when you see how much it makes the animal feel good it may help you feel good.
You also have to try to stop thinking about it. I am so tired of crying every time I am alone. I wonder what people think when they see me driving and crying.
I often wonder if this is what mass murderers and suicidal people are thinking when they lose their minds. An empty and hollow soul can be very dangerous. An unloved person or even if they just think they are unloved can make us do (or not do) unbelievably cold and cruel things.
All we can do is try to feel better and not do anything for revenge or anything irreversible. Also avoid happy couples, etc.