I'm so sorry to hear about your sadness. You have a right to be depressed right now. You are grieving for the loss of a relationship you thought would last your whole life. Spending time with supportive friends and family and church members can help. It will be a while but things will get better.

I know what this is like not being able to eat or sleep or function from day to day. I'm so sorry for you. I am still struggling with this myself. The only thing I've been able to do is just process the grief as it comes. That and I walk a lot especially in wild, isolated areas because it helps me process my emotions. I lean on the few friends I have. It has gotten less intense and all consuming in the last two months but the pain is still there right under the surface. Try to care for yourself.

So sorry your going through this. I've been there, through all the struggles...still am. 5 months for me now and I realize I'm better off. I've had time to process the situation and analyze the relationship which I know now was toxic due to her narcissism. It takes time to heal. Keep looking after yourself because now you are the most important person. Support groups and therapy have helped me greatly. Stay active and do the thinks you enjoy. We deserve to be happy. Stay strong and positive. -HUGS-

Thank you for your kind words...I am trying to take each day as it comes but finding it very difficult to be positive about anything at the moment. I am 52 and we have been married for almost 20 years. None of our friends can believe whats happening as we are so close. I am searching for answers that i probably wont be able to find...

It is devastating to say the least. I know how the pain feels. I will send you positive good wishes....
Be strong & know that people understand & care.

I'm also 52, married for 31 years. She moved out 6 weeks ago, so she can take time for herself to find what makes her happy. It's been a surprise to our kids and family and most friends. Her friends were aware though. I too wish to have answers, but I know there will be no answer that I can accept as a true valid reason for her leaving. I'm glad I found this group, it provides me with some distraction from the hurt and pain, it gives me some direction and hope that I can come out of this stronger. As you said, take it one day at a time.

Hi LostAlone - mine also says he wants to 'find himself and his identity'... He thinks his life is boring and humdrum so maybe like your wife, he is running away to find excitement, happiness ?. He has recently been prescribed medication for depression and anxiety. I am at a loss... best wishes to you and yes, i will take comfort from the group.

The pain from the initial separation and divorce is difficult to bare. I remember going through it when I got a divorce. I didn't think I'd ever make it through the pain and suffering. Blessings to you in your grieving and recovery process. There is a great group called DivorceCare.org that offers support and healing if you are separated or divorce. Perhaps there is a group in your area that you can go to. It's nice to meet and support other people who have gone through or are going through what you're experiencing.

I was married for twelve years with two young children at the time of my divorce. Today, I'm happily remarried and both of my children are adults and married. In time, you will heal and hopefully you'll be able to discover lessons learned in the experience. For me, I relied on my faith for healing. It made me stronger and a better person. I was able to forgive and move on which helped me to create a healthier and more loving relationship with my second husband.

I acknowledge you for reaching out for support. I will pray for you.

I know the pain you're feeling all too well. I promise things will get better and you will be happy again. I am six years out and have remarried. I could not be happier, and I'm grateful my 26 year marriage ended. But at the time, there was no way I thought I would get over it.

Hang in there!

Sorry my prayers are with you. God Bless

Thank you everyone - I am feeling stronger this week and its good to know that people have gone through this and come out the other side - scarred but OK. I don't know what the path ahead is for me at the moment but I am taking one day at a time. HUGS to you all