hugs my friend. let it all out, cry all you want. There is nothing wrong with that. No contact is the way to go. You are at the starting gate, but it will get better. One day at a time. Be gentle with yourself.

Thank you! We have all either been here before or are here right now. It can feel terribly lonely but messages like yours reminds us we are not alone.

Thanks again!

Sending you some support! I use to cry in the shower in the mornings. To just get it out of the way just in case i wanted to leak some tears later. Then one day i decided i didn't want to cry anymore! Sending you light and love. You're not alone.

Thank you so much, I'm touched!

Keep up the good work, Dont hold back your pain or emotions. Talk them out, yell , scream, and acknowledge that you are in pain and going to change.
ITs worst than a broken bone or a torn muscle, but keeping the no contact strong is super important.
Keep it up and post you will help others see the end results as they read your story of success.

Thanks Memphis! It's a daily challenge but I keep praying for strength!

It gets better. It really does. It's so hard to see it when you are in the midst of all the heartache. But we adapt and we push forward. There are bright times in your future; I guarantee it.

I went through a rough divorce 4 years ago, darkest time of my life. After 19 years my wife left; turned out she had been cheating. We had a then-8-year-old daughter caught in the middle. This site helped me a lot.

I ended up in a new relationship that lasted 3 years with a lot of good times, a lot of healing. Unfortunately that relationship ended early this year. So I was down again (not as severely this time!), but not out. A few more rough months. Now I'm dating again and things are looking up.

Life is a rollercoaster. The only constant is change. If you're like me, you don't handle change very well! But I can honestly say now that the divorce was a net positive for my life. My ex and I were really not the best overall fit and I have since seen things about her that I really dislike. I suspect you will get to the same place. It may take 3 months or 3 years, but you'll get there.

You are at the very beginning right now. You have some rough months ahead of you, but things will gradually improve (you won't even realize it sometimes) and suddenly you will look back and notice real progress. Just push through. The only way out is to go through it. You will end up changed, but quite possibly for the better. Be well.

Thank you! I too went through a tough divorce 11 years ago. We have 2 teen boys together.

I've been down this road several times but it's never easy. You get so used to someone being there a d when they're gone it's like a piece of you went with them.

I don't really like big changes especially if it causes pain but I think most people are like that.

Just wanted to thank people in this thread. It helps. Never been married but my financee and I ended. She discarded me and that is horrible feeling.

This has started to help

Hi Masterno and welcome! This is a good place and everyone supports each other. I'm sorry she did that to you a d that you feel discarded. This is no reflection on you. Other people dont determine our self worth. Post as often as you like. Its cathartic and also you will get support from this group. Be strong g, you will get through this!