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Moving on

Lotessa
Lotessa

The age-old question - how do you move on from this? 


I'm actually quite ok at the moment, but there's still a lot of hurt and anger in me. Doesn't help that his stuff is still here and I've been coming home all week knowing that he was in my apartment collecting - ever so slowly - his belongings.


Those nagging negative thoughts in my head are currently keeping me down, though... Will I ever be truly happy again? Will I ever find someone to love again? Will I ever get hurt again?


I have kind of a supportive group of family, colleagues/friends, but they're all in relationships and sometimes don't have time for me... and I can understand that the world doesn't care in general about what's going on with me, but I'm feeling more often than not truly lonely... 


I try not to think about him that much and too often, but one thought remains: I hope he is as miserable as I am...

OLDBIKER
OLDBIKER
You are still young. My dad married my mom when he was 49 yrs. old. They had a great marriage for 46 years. Set some goals and don't settle for anything your heart doesn't feel right about.
linny5227
linny5227
I feel all of that. I thought it would get easier once his stuff was out, but then I got hit with the finality of it all and felt even more alone.
ifinallygetit
ifinallygetit
I am in the exact same place as you. I fear that I will never find anyone else again (irrational I know). I worry he was the best I could hope for. Father time is not working to my advantage though as I am 50 but I still have hope that I will meet someone and if not, gain some new friends
arfie
arfie
I am still only considering The Big D after 37 years, but I am taking it in very small steps. In all other places of my life, when I "move on" in one single leap, I typically end up with a bigger mess than I was moving on from.
HopelessInlove
HopelessInlove
Its painful but try
1) get out of self pity
2) get over the love for him
3) get up to do other things.

Practice these 3 things. Repeat them. Jumble them up. We need to stop missing them.
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