I understand that. From everything everyone tells me, the only worse thing in missing the right opportunity is wishing you'd waiting a little longer for the right opportunity.

In other words, if you aren't healed and ready, you might say the right opportunity really isn't right.

Dang it. Rman you think too much. Nope I am not going to believe that is the way life works. When I am in the right place in myself I am sure as hell hoping someone doesn't tell me it took too long and I missed the BUS,,,,love you man...

i think communication is key. as long as you can express what you are feeling and thinking, then things will unfold naturally. but i think you have the tendency to hold your cards to your chest.


good luck. you deserve to be happy.

See, I don't think you can miss the right person while you're healing. I think the right person comes along, at the right time in your life.

I believe everything happens for a reason and that there is a kind of orchestration to it.

going with Jenny Sweetie on this one....as long as you said how you were feeling, and where you were in the healing process, things are in the clear.. you can't speed up healing, and the right person would wait, if it was also right for them.

the secret is

(c'mere)

scarcity mentality is an illusion, you actually have plenty of time and space to find the next of your three great loves

(you believe that myth about the 3 great loves right?)

My thing is, I don't know "if" I'll be healed, "when" I'll be healed and the the eff that's looks like! At least right now anyway.

A part of me believes "healed" is over rated. Sometimes I think its just being at the right place at the right time and near a person who is open and attracted to you.

In my last go around, all of that had aligned but then whammo, the scary personality disorder stuff began; and so, I had to move on but I did so okicking and screaming with enourmous sadness and disappointment...we move on.

If I didn't have this surgery thing next week, I'd be back out there by now, but I feel I am not ready because of that and needing cervical spine surgery is not a real "selling point" ROFLMAO.

((hugging Sylph's spine-loving heart)))

I don't know. It is not every day the right person comes along. Yes, timing is everything - but for the right person - timing may need a little help.

I think if you are meant to be with someone that their path will cross with yours at the perfect time. I am of firm belief that everything happens for a reason and, while we may not understand why some things happen and not like it, we are on the path that we are meant to walk on. I think that if you met "the ONE" and your paths have already crossed, that they will be brought back into your life when each of you are ready. Hugs!

I don't think that will happen. If someone came along while I wasn't ready, then she wasn't Ms. Right anyway.

fortunately, I am in complete isolation... So, I have no chance of meeting the right person... or well, anyone...

did they run out of bossy busty blondes in Germany?

Not really.

There are lots of hot hot hot chickadees over here...

I just don't know enough German... And, I need to get out more...

yeah but they all know English???