I understand...men are not on the top of my list these days. It will decrease over time...just do the best you can.

What happened to Joys post between number 7 & 8? I feel like I'm taking crazy pills right now. Do you have magical fairy powers Joy? Can you buy those in Canada?

I got angry during the mourning period after my divorce. However, this anger was directed at my ex .... not all women. It took me several months before I felt that I was emotionally whole enough to date again, but I never felt like I hated all women - just the one that caused me so much pain.

Well you can always go to the other side. Just my opinion.

it's just a phase. if you weren't like this before, then, it's just a phase.

as i look at women and experience this same kind of thing, a part of me kind of rolls with it and finds some humor in it. especially when people like Awesome point out my oftentimes skeptical attitude by looking at odds of success so much.

yep, we are all going to go through the different phases, back and forth, until it all eventually levels out.

what's really sad are the guys and gals who get so pissed off and disillusioned that they switch sides. i think that is pretty darn strange and self-destructive. but, who am i to say that they shouldn't? it's just hard for anyone, i guess.

the coke addict comment was not in reference to you, but to the guy in the convenience store AwesomeAgain described, whose behaviour sounded remarkably like someone I am acquainted with

Your OP is a perfectly valid concern, not uncommon and you're in the right place to look for feedback and advice. My comment wasn't meant to discourage you, I apologize if it did.

AwesomeAgain, I'm assuming a CL or DS admin also mistook my coke addict comment as meant towards Cleric, in which case it should have been removed -- but it wasn't, a mistake that's understandable given how poorly I may have worded it. No biggy, it's old news by now.

Sorry Joy, my bad. I'm an anxious, nervous wreck lately, was posting on my phone with the tiny screen, and had you and about half the forum on ignore. Lol. Omg. I freaked out. It was like everyone was disappearing on me. Lol

Sorry Cleric.

its a weird day all around

either some kinda 'crazy's in the water

or there's a full moon

everywhere I turn things are "off"

Oh dear. I should probably turn in then. I've had enough :)

Coming in late on this one. I hope you are feeling a bit better. I too think it is temporary. Sort of like after trying to accomplish something and failing miserably then throwing up your hands and saying "I will never ever ever bake a cake again as long as I live! In fact I hate cooking!" .....but then you get hungry again and you make toast. :)

Good luck, let us know how it goes with your journey.

I'm late on this one, but I agree with the general sentiment that it is a phase. If you were truly a misogynist you would have been one before. You are just reacting to treatment received from one particular individual.

I think a positive for you is that you are concerned with the effect misogyny would have on your relationship with your mother. Generally, if your family understands you at all they should be able to realize that any present unkind tendencies are a reaction to your situation and do not reflect on them personally.

If you are particularly concerned about taking this out on mom, perhaps you should make a focused effort to maintianing a positive relationship with her. Plan to do good, positive things with her so help you continue with happy mom-based feelings.

You got jerked over by a chick, but mom is not to blame.

Good luck on your journey.

I understand how you feel, but, you must remember that women are simply products of their environment, just like men. I can't stand my ex, doesn't mean I apply that to all men. Women become bitter because, after divorce, life can be a very bitter pill to swallow.

For example, my ex sucked the life out of me for 20 yhears, then announced he wanted a divorce and that he hadn't loved me for the last 17 of those years (pretty good actor). I gave up my career and my life to join with his, then he left me with no support system, no ability to obtain a job with a living wage and a child to support. I "took care" of everything for him for years, now, after all of that he wants my help!!!!!!

Many times in divorce it may seem as though women get the better deal, but, with the inability to find a viable wage, many middle age and older women suffer because they don't have the experience or job skills to land a full-time $60K job that allows them to live in comfort. We do much work that goes unnoticed and unpaid.

Okay, now for men, my ex thinks all women suck too, he used to downtrod women all the time, but, he also admittedly hated his mother.

I think you have to try to find perspective here, you may believe all women are awful, but, remember, you haven't met ALL women. Give yourself permission to believe, for just a minute, that all women are not alike, that may help. Take baby steps at first, get some women who just want to be friends, you might find your faith restored.