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messaging ex and feeling confused

holly21
holly21

so my ex and i broke up around 3 months ago and after a few weeks of begging him to stay i decided enough was enough and cut off all contact and blocked him. the other day i messaged him asking how things were as i felt like i was in a place where if he didn't reply i would be okay. and so he replied and we got talking. he wants to have sex with me and those feelings are reciprocated. he still seems ineterested in me but i don't want to get all crazy and fall in love with him again. i don't want to cut off contact again as it nice talking, but what if i carry on talking and i have feelings that are not reciprocated

OlderCPer
OlderCPer
You're either broken up or you're not. Do you really want to be a "booty call" just because he wants sex? He didn't want everything else that comes with a relationship, right?

At some point you need to look in the mirror and decide whether that young lady is worth everything, i.e. being respected, cared for, trusted, treated as special as she deserves to be.

Keeping in occasional touch with an ex is one thing....giving in because he wants to use you for sex when he wants it then put you aside, well that's not how any young woman should be okay with being treated.
Poe1975
Poe1975
Cut all contact!!! That's the only way to move on frfr.
Osheana
Osheana
You are a little confused---and then the sex thing just makes it more
complicated.Okay you stated your broken up- who exactly ended it?I take it him because you were begging him to stay-key word begging.Lets save you
some unwanted pain- he wants to get the sex because he knows he can
because you were begging him to stay- key word "begging".Do you want the
feeling of being dragged along the side of the road- no I am sure another man that is worth your time won't do it,Stop contact and move on Lots of Pure love sent your way.
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OlderCPer
OlderCPer
Keep in mind your talking to a 16 yr. old.....I'm not sure this involved a man.
naturegirl49
naturegirl49
Cut all contact and move on. It's very difficult but you have to block him. He will do the same thing if you take him back and then you will have the heartbreak to go through again and again. Reach out to friends or a help line. Keep busy keep contacting people don't obsess about him. Keep changing your thoughts. Don't listen to music that reminds you of breakups. Pray ask God to release you from the hooks you have in him. Keep praying keep contacting people not to talk about your ex but talk about what the other person wants to talk about. Get out of your head by helping other people. If you make up your mind it wont be long before you realize you are free.
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