Because you are not 100% sure of what the outcome of said change will be.

Fear of the unknown but once you take that step, the second one will feel steadier. Fear is a mere mirage but the results driven by that bravery is simply a victorious feeling that lends to good results if you take the healthy stride.

Oh I thought this said "making change" and was gonna be about money.....

don't know where to start!

Soon and Z said it. Fear of the unknown. Even in misery, there is a certain amount of comfort which has to be overthrown.

When you've spent so much time with your identity wrapped up in the way you are now, and what you do now, and how you live now, it's hard to let go of that.

Like Soon said, the hard part is the unknown of what the change will bring. The unknown can be scary, and it's hard to let go of old patterns.

I spent 20 years being a certain person, living a certain way, with certain patterns...you don't just wake up one day and magically make the changes you know you need.

Struggling with those changes, was the hardest part of my divorce and therapy. It meant changing what I knew, and how I thought of myself.

I thnk it's hard during a break-up that you didn't want because every change you make takes you further from your lost mate and makes the break up emotionally more final.

Because it's a lot of work, most of which is unfamiliar and uncomfortable. It's perfectly normal to take the path of least resistance.

What if the change that is good for you, may actually affect others in a negative way? Should you be selfish and make the change, or should you sacrifice your happiness so that the ones around you will be happy?

Ah, the age-old question... I have found, through this process, that in fact, those around cannot truly be happy unless we are. Sounds selfish, but think about it - it really makes sense. Sometimes we fool ourselves into thinking that we should "stay together for the kids", "don't rock the boat it would mean such a disruption to the family" when in reality the current situation is much more toxic.

I have read that change is the only constant and that we should stop fighting it. (But I still do sometimes.)

I changed my undies today.

You aren't responsible for anyone's feeling but your own, and your childrens'. Every other adult, is responsible for their own behavior, that includes how they react to changes you make, that are meant to better your life.

Yes, you need to GTFO Rman. You KNOW this. Will it hurt? Yah?

But what are you teaching the children, that you need to stay miserable for them?

And STFU crowd, I AM taking my own advice.

Plus, I know someone who is more than willing to be your rebound!