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Long story short, my H is trying to make me look crazy in others eyes. A friend of his sent me a message he knows what is going on and wants to help him. My H sent him a message that his friends and family are afraid to call cuz they think I will intercept it...well then fucking leave already. I don't care anymore what he does. No wonder everyone thinks I'm crazy. Yes, I did check his texts, his email but that is b/c he was lying and cheating on me and continued to do so while lying saying he wasn't. I'm just sick of being made to look like the fucked up one when he went and did this. I'm a mess right now after reading his response to his friend. Why does he have to do this to me...he can't even be honest about that. I feel freaking tortured living like this. I can't take much more. I am not crazy..and NOT a bad person..I did nothing wrong, why am I being persecuted.
This way when they are going around town putting you down, people can say - well umm I saw her last week and she looked pretty sane to me. She even said hello to me and the kids etc. etc.
Your punk-ass husband can run around like chicken little screaming SHE'S PSYCHO SHE'S PSYCHO, but in the end his lying, cheating ass will be served up on a silver platter when you and your lawyer roast him.
Don't let him take your self-respect or dignity. They are not community property.
*FLIPS OFF L'S FUKTARD WITH BOTH FINGERS*
He's doing this to avert attention from himself. I know how hard it is to sit back and watch the lies and hope that people know what's really going on, but be assured, anyone who is a true friend, and anyone who makes a difference in your life, will see through his BS.
I've been in the same situation myself and the truth always comes out. It may seem like a long time, but eventually it will. You also have photographic evidence to back you up. Take a deep breath, a few of them, it will be okay. It takes time for these things to flush themselves out but eventually they do.
but i would like to add to the mix one thing that hasn't been clearly said...
if you are separated, even if you are physically still living together, you are no longer allowed to check his emails... thats considered invasion of privacy and he can, if he figures it out and is smart enough to know he's entitled, press charges against you for invasion of privacy... even if the charges are eventually dropped (because email is a tough ground to prove) everyone will believe that you were invading his privacy and it will add to his beliefs and stories of you being crazy.
stop checking his email NOW, before he gets smart and really makes you look like the looney...
i've had the ability from day one to check her email (since i knew her passwords from before the separation) but i would never have checked them. I would assume that she's changed them all up now, but i have no idea whether she did or not.
nor do I care... let her talk shit... in the end, if you take the high road, you'll come out ahead.