Everyone has these days. Just know that they will get fewer and farther between. When you start to feel like this, consult your list of all the reasons why you left. That should help. You are missing who he was or thought he could be, not who he actually was (a stalker that you had to call the cops on a few times because he wouldn't leave you alone). Our minds have a way of glossing over the negative stuff and only remembering the good. You have to remind yourself periodically of the bad. Stay tough!

Stay strong......I sometimes miss my STBX but I have to look at what is (and in your case all of the problems with him that you have had). Remember you are worthy of true love and that in time, that will be an opportunity for you.

Please don't get down....we're here for you.

I need you all so much. Have had terrible day today . Thank you for your kind words

I promise with all my heart it DOES get better! I am one year out from my husband asking for a divorce. It has taken me a while to get my bearings, but I am finally feeling some sense of normalcy in my life. The absolutely unbearable pain is gone. I still have bad days and I still cry, but overall I am doing really well. Cheryt always gives great advice too. Definitely consult that list! Heck, take it with you everywhere you go if you have to. Keep adding to the list as you think of things, no matter how small (he left the toilet seat up, he ate with his mouth open). She is so right that we gloss things over and only remember the good stuff. With my husband, it was all good stuff except for when he actually left. He treated me like a queen when we were together so it was tough for me to let that go. But then I realized that all the hell he put me through during the divorce was telling me loud and clear that he is not the same person I married. Pay close attention to the way he treated you then and now. Hold on to that. I wish you the best.

Does anyone think I filed for divorce to soon? Should I have waited until I was stronger. It's been nearly 6 weeks . I'm terrible today. It's all since I put in for divorce yesterday. Why am I feeling like this? All I've done tonight is cry and keep thinking he has moved on with somebody else. Because I know he won't like being on his own. Feel sick to the stomach . Sony everyone

Prolonging a divorce makes it difficult to "wait" for the stronger part. I was separated about nine months before I decided to def pull the plug on my marriage. In that nine months, it was tedious living in limbo. I couldn't fully commit to myself and how I wanted to be until I comitted to making a decision about my marriage.

It's normal to second guess, or to wonder all of these "what ifs". BUT...remember WHY you did. Remember WHY you're better than what you were.

You will make it...it seems like a mountain right now, but eventually, you will make it to the top and onto the other side.

Do you know why you filed for divorce? Do you know why you left? Do you know that ultimately he is not the right partner for you? if you have a valid answer for each of these questions or just answered yes. Then believe in your gut... it will get you through even if at the moment its feeling jittery. Stay true to yourself and your decisions!!

I am sorry your day is so sad and painful.....Hugs to you

I have had some ok periods today and some periods of sadness and crying
My life feels completely meaningless right now

The good news? You're totally normal. The bad news? These days are going to happen. It's ok to feel all those emotions wash over you - you've lost more than your marriage. More than a marriage. You've lost the dreams you had set out for yourself. You're experiencing a tremendous loss and it hurts. Like hurts in ways you never imagined.

However, things get better. And as Cheryt said, these moments will space themselves out more as you heal. So take a deep breath... cry if you want to... and cling to the fact that you won't feel like this forever. I promise.

Haven't gone to work today. Just crying all the time. I feel I'm not coping . I don't want be here anymore

I think you made the right decision. I think you are afraid of being alone. And that's ok, just work on you right now, and know that you aren't alone, we are all here for you. The good news, it wont last forever. It just feels like it. I agree with amandarobe, cheryt gives great advice. Love ya girl. Big hug

Hold on tight my friend, you are not alone ! This dark cloud will leave you very soon. Please dont give up, please stay strong

Call your doctor today. You may need something a bit stronger than the amitriptyline. Can you get out today? Or have a couple of friends over? You need to get your mind off of him for a bit. Spend the dat tgh

Hi Need: It's time to celebrate the milestones of each week without having that abuse. Without all the bad things you went through.

We need to appreciate ourselves and love ourselves so that we're not pining for men like him.

Keep going to your support group. Ask them the tools they use to get over when they when they start missing "him" and feel alone and unloved.

Needafriend
Is there someone you can call? I'm concerned for you...
Its a struggle. My ex left me for another and is still with her 4 years now. Stay close to your family...I'm praying for you