Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Hello,
So I'm looking for some feedback I'll keep it short. My wife and I have been married 3 years together 7. Two months ago I got the I love you but I'm not in love with you. The beginning of September she started the divorce process. We have done traditional counseling and we even have done marriage boot camp as a last ditch effort. She said she doesn't have feelings for me no connection. Well I wrote her a letter and left my ring on it and hardest thing I've ever done I let her go. We don't have money to move apart at the moment so I've cut contact but am civil as we have a daughter which breaks my heart. I travel 3 weeks for work a month, so I only text or call to FaceTime our daughter. I moved my stuff into our spare room and sleep in there. Well the last couple weeks she's been joining me at the gym. I completely turned focus on me and our daughter. Working out eating healthy church, reading books, overall more positive and confident . Well last weekend we went to lunch and an nba game. She asked me if I was talking to anyone I said no my focus is on our daughter and myself. I asked if she was she said she was having conversations but wasn't hanging out with anyone. So last night she made dinner (she never cooks) then she started talking about us buying a cheap house together and flipping it. Saying "whether we separate or not" I'd still like to buy a house with you. She gave me a hug and kiss on the cheek last night first time in prob two months. We got intimate. She hasn't pressed forward for divorce and she's talking about our future a little bit. I'm confused because two months ago she said she didn't want anything to do with me as I wasn't confident motivated or drive ....Any words of wisdom?
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I'm horrified! I knew my insurance would go up due to getting a new car but I didn't expect it to go up over $2,000. I did have an accident with the snow/ice in the winter. I was just telling my brother that I have had my car since March 2, 2026 and have only spent $75 on an oil change. Now this! I called another insurance company and their quote was over $4,000. I guess I have to pay...
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Plain and simple, you became a man again.
You are showing her you have drive, you have ambition, you are working on yourself, keep it up don't loose focus.
Take time away from her, and write out you life goals, your life drive, your hobbies, your dreams( not with other people), keep fixing yourself.
Get healthy, help your daughter stay healthy.
Look for a better job, closer to home, closer to a family life. Dont let work destroy a family.
Love your wife in a way you are not afraid to let her go, why would you want her in a relationship that she was not happy in.
You can not fix her, change her or force her, any attempt to do any of this will only ensure she will be unhappy and leave.
Listen to her when she talks, but don't solve a problem unless she ask you too. Know the difference between her problems and your problems.
I can not know if you will get your family back or your wife, but if you do everything to make yourself not others happy, you will be in a better place if she does fall in love with you.
I think it is hard for you to be objective because you two are living in the same house. Can one of you stay at a relative's house while you get some perspective and some time apart to really look at things?
I dont think there is a way to ever know if someone has truthfully stopped cheating- but I do think there comes a time when you realize that you denote that person to the back burner- and put yourself on the front burner, You focus on you- its not even worth you burning out your mental energy over- Not to be too forward forgive me if i may sound too direct but her actions are just so imbalanced and you so dont need that toxicity - you want to be vibrating on a high frequency,To walk away from her- your mind is programmed to see this as a "Loss', No not true Nothing is Lost- all is Transformed,If a person is not meant for you but you (like Memphis WH said keep your focus on you -vibrate on a high frequency- she will be attracted to that- (because everything is energy) but also if the universe sees it fit- your true soul mate will be attracted and vibrate to be in tune with you,Well wishing you Abundant light, Clarity ,