Big hug! What happened that made you so sad - something in particular or just being with your son and thinking about the overall situation?

Bear Hug!!! Tex, come on. You just had lunch with your son! We have to appreciate the little bit of good we can get. Don't get robbed of it with all these ill emotions. You have been doing good! Go to the bathroom. Put some water on your face. Take a deep breath and release all the negative feelings as you exhale. Do this a couple of times if you have to. Palante! (Spanish for "Forward") - HugHugHug

This emotional stuff is very overwhelming
And it has a life of it own. During my separation
I would go into overload and overwhelm if
There was too much pressure or performance
Expected of me.

I often worked a lot of hours. It was okay before
then i just could no longer Handle or cope well.
I got thru it and survived it, With my support groups
and venting on here.

Pia Mellody says to tell yourself, its my feeling
And emotion and i can stand it. Keep telling
Yourself that whatever it was. It worked for me.

I got into a rage over christmas time about my ex
and i talked myself Down by repeating it over
and over. It worked, its called sitting in your own
uncomfortable Feelings and emotions. That when
People drink, drug, eat, shop anything to get rid
Of those uncomfortable F&E. HUGS

It is just the realization in the last four months:
I have lost my wife to adultery
I have lost my best friend because he was the partner
I have lost my home to foreclosure
My son dropped out of school with only 3 months left his senior year
My friends have disappeared
I have had the FBI/police threatened on me
I miss all my pets
I HATE MY LIFE

Ugh so sorry. All the other stuff is hard but your son's situation is very difficult.... that's when I'm the most emotional when I feel I have failed as a parent.

Hang in there, do you go to therapy yet?

Thats a lot of trauma to handle alone, do
Whatever you can do to help yourself get
Thru this safely and with your sanity intact.
HUGS

I am serious do not go over the edge
Check yourself in somewhere if you
Have to.

STex, you have been through so much it's no wonder you feel the way you do. I think a wise man posted just the other day, or maybe even last week (the wise man would be you) about the good days and bad and helped me through a difficult situation. Just like you support us when we need it, we are here to do the same for you. Take a deep breath, a walk outside whatever you need to do.

I too have had quite a few bad things happen this year. Maybe it is the big man upstairs' way of telling me I am getting it all out of the way now.

Hang in there - message me if you want to chat.

That is a heavy load that youare carrying. Like they say, small steps, it will slowly get better.... Lean on your faith, maybe your priest or minister.. It is always darkest before daybreak. things will improve, you have faith, you have stated that often..Use that strength....

I am better now, just an annoying panic attack. Haven't had one in a few weeks. So for those having them daily hourly, I guess I can attest to that fact that they do get further apart. I really did not realize it had been that long since I felt that way. The worst feeling...

@STex dude, I feel for you. I would recommend reaching out for help from family or friends, thy help to balance burdens and often stick their shoulder under some of it to take a load off. If there's no one maybe a councillor?

Stay strong, parenting is not an exact science but it is simple; being there for your son and doing what you think is right, which from reading, you clearly will do because you're a decent human being and a good parent. You got this! Chin up bud.

Bad days really suck!!! We get mired in all of our crap like we're stuck in a pit full of mud, without the ability to pull ourselves out. Allow yourself to feel bad, but just for a little bit. Then go kick the hell out of your anger and sadness by pounding a treadmill for a couple miles, dancing like a madman to the most up tempo songs you can find, buy a punching bag, hang it up and punch it until your exhausted and the anger and sadness have been replaced. A thousand hugs!

Hey all, I thank you for helping me get through. Finished the day with wife texting me and saying everything was my fault, and that none of our son's problems were caused by her affair. Its always someone else's fault. I took the high road and offered my advice to her problem, but she did not like my suggestion. Then I got a call from our "club" saying they wanted to work with me, they did not want to lose me as a member! So a day filled with good and bad. Wanted to go for a walk, but its raining in S Texas - it never rains here!

Never mind, my wife just kicked our son out of the house. God if you can hear me, I am at my breaking point.

Hang in there my friend, get your bible out
Or whatever else will calm you down. Separation
And divorce is extremely volatile times and clear
Heads need to prevail.

I used as much maturity as Possible at that time.
We only wrote in a notebook or thru lawyers if
Needed. My ex took no blame And never manned
up about anything so the least said the better. He
Was done, that i did get. HUGS