Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I recently discovered I have a fear of marriage and commitment. I grew up in a home where screaming, bullying, emotional and mental abuse was normal. I ended up associating all of that with how marriage is supposed to be.
I can be in an exclusive relationship and be happy easily but when the topic of marriage comes up my heart sinks, I tense up and ultimately I end up leaving. I never understood why I did this.
What can i do to help my brain realise marriage isn't a big scary monster?
There is a difference between cautious skepticism and, as you say, a "fear of marriage and commitment." With the former, you evaluate the pros and cons, and make an informed decision - which may be "Nope. Marriage isn't for me." The later is an emotional allergy that prevents you from even considering the topic on its merits.