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Letting go

justjackie28
justjackie28

I severed all ties with my husband last Wednesday ... he wants a divorce ... he is moving and left September 1 because of his job ... he chose to go alone... I was served divorce papers after he left. But he still insisted that he loves me and still cares for me and wants to stay in each other's lives but he just fees this is the best decision for us both ...he has been very helpful financially getting me set up in my new place and paying the rent for now... tells me if I ever need to talk or if I need anything to call him. As badly as I want him in my life , I'm not willing to settle for just a piece of him ... I told him that if he goes through with the divorce and gives up on our marriage then he will never see or hear from me ever again. There is no in between ... there is no being friends ...I told him how much I love him and will always love him ... I wished him well and wished him a happy life... I apologized for anything I ever did to hurt him ... and I said goodbye ... it hurts ... I'm really missing him today ... but I know that I don't want a front row seat to his new life without me .. I don't want to know where he goes and what he's doing ... this is the best decision for me ... so I hope the healing can begin and I can move forward and rebuild my life and someday feel completely happy again 

Yard_Eggs
Yard_Eggs
My condolences; I think you made a very wise decision.
Lavender80
Lavender80
Yes. It is really tough. Especially when all this happened to you just 2 months ago.

Knowing what they're up to will not help you in any way. I think you are right when you say you need to close that door, grieve and look forward to a different future.

I'm glad he is still supportive of you...and it didn't have to get ugly and miserable. Enjoy the peace...and the high road both of you have given each other.

Sending you light and love. :)
winter10
winter10
Wow. I am impressed. That was a lot to make yourself the priority and know what you need and actually execute it. I only hope to be as strong as you in the coming days. Sounds like you made a great decision!
AdelynRene
AdelynRene
I really admire your courage. Sending many hugs your way.
KaleidoscopePictures
KaleidoscopePictures
You are really an inspiration to us in the way you are handling this. I agree with pp that you don't want to keep tabs on everything he does. That only hurts and makes the wound fester instead of heal. One thing I really encourage you to do is to seek out a divorce support group. That can be such a lifeline because once a week you are with other people who "get it." You might google Divorce Care. That's a nationwide one so there should be one within driving distance. There were weeks where I got through it by saying to myself, "Okay if I can get through till Wednesday, I'll be able to tell the group what's going on." I've been divorced ten years and I still reach out to one of the ladies from that support group when I need to talk to someone who I know understands. Hugs to you and kudos for taking the high ground. You are not alone.
Fadedgypsy
Fadedgypsy
Sounds to me like he is being all nice so you want fight for anything like alimony. He blindsided you with divorce papers, he is helping you financially after moving away from you out of town. I I would wager the bet that there is a record being kept a legal record of every penny he spending on you. Because he's done something he knows if you find out you can nail his ass to the wall. Maybe I'm wrong but I think you need to brush on some detective skills and start digging. That's just me though
Fadedgypsy
Fadedgypsy
Sounds to me like he is being all nice so you want fight for anything like alimony. He blindsided you with divorce papers, he is helping you financially after moving away from you out of town. I I would wager the bet that there is a record being kept a legal record of every penny he spending on you. Because he's done something he knows if you find out you can nail his ass to the wall. Maybe I'm wrong but I think you need to brush on some detective skills and start digging. That's just me though
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