Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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imiru 10/20/2016

I've gone from missing my ex to wanting to knock his teeth out. Letting go of anger has never been my stong suit but I'm trying my best. I tell myself everyday that I deserve far better and that he's the one who gave up when things got tough. I wish there were easier ways to handle is rage I still get from time to time. I just want to stop thinking about him all together for a long while. I wouldnt mind remembering him someday in the future just not right now.

mirandac 10/20/2016

I had lot of divorce rage that i had to work thru, It
took me a long time in divorce care To get there.

We worked on a lot of different issues, anger was
one and the only way to Get rid of my rage was
Thru forgiveness. I did it when I was ready. I had
to get in there deep and First i had to forgive myself
Then i had to forgive my ex. He did not need to
know, it was about me not him.

It really did help me, not saying It doesn't return
i still have anger toward him just not toxic anger.
HUGS

crystalicious 10/21/2016

Your situation, as well as your feelings about it, sound an awful lot like what I'm going through right now as well. Particularly the "I just want to stop thinking about him for a while" part. Honestly, I'm still trying to learn how to deal with these feelings right now as well, so I can't offer much in the way of advice, but I did want to at least comment with a hug and some solidarity to remind you that you're not alone. Feel free to inbox me if you'd like to chat. (hug)

11Christmases 10/21/2016

I have been there too! I dealt with the anger stage by trying to stay away from triggers any way I could - avoiding people who bring up my divorce in room full of married people, avoiding neighbors who try to act like my friend, then report my actions back to my ex, unfollowing Facebook friends who flaunt their marriages all the time, and of course avoiding any contact my ex or his family. Venting here helps as well! I also joined singles groups and other social groups in my area - it really helps to be around other people who won't flaunt their relationship in your face.

Lonestar 10/21/2016

It sounds like you are going through the normal grieving steps. It's natural to be mad about what he did to you. None of us go into a relationship thinking it's temporary. So when it ends we have lost things - our plans for the future, friends sometimes, their family , a life you expected. I can't wait to get to the angry phase - the grieving phase is sucking my energy. Find some activity to take up some of your spare time. Give you something else to focus on. One day at a time.

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