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Just a thought but do you think...

llmt
llmt
Do you think that with all the shit we are going thru that you find yourself doing more stupid crap or drinking more or just indulging more on whatever..going that extra mile to have just one more drink, piece of cake, or whatever? For me personally I am actually afraid to drink a lot but it seems I have noticed a lot of people in our situations toasting a lot more than they would have socially. Anyone willing to share and be honest?
deleted_user
deleted_user
Yup....i went through the drinking phase. It started to scare me a bit (there is alcoholism in my family), when i did a few things i never would have done sober. Now i still drink, but feel much more in control. In some ways i think it's normal to want to numb out the pain. The trick is to be aware. Luckily because of my background, good friends, and therapy, i was able to reign it in before i got out of control.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I caught myself drinking more and did a few stupid things. Definitely in check and aware of it. And the "need" to drink is gone. I did feel that for a while, used it as a band-aid. Not any more.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I definitely drink more than I used to... mostly after the kids have gone to bed and I'm alone. Nights are the hardest for me. Don't want to think or feel.

We've only been split for a few months, so I'm hoping as time moves on I won't feel I need to be numb as much.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Of course we are, mostly drinking, I think. I keep in a back of my mind, that's not good and needs to go away, drinking does not help much, hangover is no fun. Also we do not support drinking here or use of other things, like sweets and carbs. So think before you go trash yourself drunk.
deleted_user
deleted_user
i didnt drink much after he left..i knew i would drunk dial
deleted_user
deleted_user
I have never been a sad drinker. So I was good. And I've never not known my limit.
deleted_user
deleted_user
theres a limit? making memo
deleted_user
deleted_user
BP,
We also do not support carbs? Huh? Who's we? I must have missed something.

Everything in moderation works for me. I think the point is that one needs to know their limits and consequences as it is quite easy to run into trouble when you are emotionally, mentally distorted.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Good thing you cleared that up Juliet, I thought BP was calling me fat.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hahahaha B!

Life is too short to make a meal out of powder. Sorry.

You can be fit, eating carbs and every desert you crave. It's moderation and control. Not a blender and a ziploc.
BedHog
BedHog
I found myself eating things that I read would up my serotonin levels. Bananas, chocolate, mac 'n cheese, eggs, etc. to help with the sadness.
BedHog
BedHog
I drank more toward the end of the relationship than after the end....couldn't stand being around him much.
Anyse
Anyse
Yep, I stopped drinking altogether before the relationship ended (never drank more than 2 beers as that is my personal maximum) and I am now back to 2 beers each day and I keep a 12-pack handy to make sure that I never run out!

All in moderation for me!
deleted_user
deleted_user
I don't do anything in excess...
deleted_user
deleted_user
I went through 2 cycles...

I ate a lot less at first and dropped a lot of weight.

Then I rebounded and went to the other extreme, and have had to rope myself in.

I think it's natural. It's like when smokers try to quit smoking... they need something to easy the pain... and this is usually a new separate addiction.