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For those of you who have been following my story a bit. I guess you know that I had put a deadline on this weekend for deciding if I was going to move away from my kids and stbx 1.5 hours away to my hometown.
The thinking was I would be happier being around those who love me, and around my friends. I dont really have a support network in this town, as I moved here for my stbx's job.
Well I have finally decided on what im going to do. Im going to stay here, close to my kids.
I will have to buck up, and get on with my life, without having my friends and family right down the road. They are still close enough to go visit on the spur of the moment, and I plan to do that often. But I want to be here to take care of my kids, especially my youngest, and I am not willing to give up ANY of my custody time with him.
In fact the stbx came over today to talk to me at lunch about my decision, and we sat down and got our date books out, and she has plans on 3 of her days in the next 3 weeks. So I get 3 extra days this month!! So right away my decision paid off.
She is turning into a social butterfly, and she does lots of things with her new guy. That is sad for me, but also gives me a great chance of seeing my boys more.
Now its all about finding a job! Please with me luck and say a prayer for me (if you are into that). I need work like NOW!
The thinking was I would be happier being around those who love me, and around my friends. I dont really have a support network in this town, as I moved here for my stbx's job.
Well I have finally decided on what im going to do. Im going to stay here, close to my kids.
I will have to buck up, and get on with my life, without having my friends and family right down the road. They are still close enough to go visit on the spur of the moment, and I plan to do that often. But I want to be here to take care of my kids, especially my youngest, and I am not willing to give up ANY of my custody time with him.
In fact the stbx came over today to talk to me at lunch about my decision, and we sat down and got our date books out, and she has plans on 3 of her days in the next 3 weeks. So I get 3 extra days this month!! So right away my decision paid off.
She is turning into a social butterfly, and she does lots of things with her new guy. That is sad for me, but also gives me a great chance of seeing my boys more.
Now its all about finding a job! Please with me luck and say a prayer for me (if you are into that). I need work like NOW!
When I posted last week, asking for advice about my upcoming decision, one of the biggest things I heard form other men was: "I would kill someone to have more time with my kids......"
That really struck me. Why would I willingly turn myself into a every other weekend father? So many are FORCED into that. I have a choice! No, being with my kids as much as possible is the most important thing.
The getting healthy and happy stuff I have to figure out on my own anyways. Family and friends can support you, but they cant heal you.
Good luck with the job hunt. You'll find something.
Putting the kids in sacrifice of our own needs and desires is what the meaning of a parent (father or mother) is. Way to go.