I am with mdse, not there yet. Hopefully it will come soon. I don't want to be a bitter old woman, so I won't.

I go back and forth on this one. On the one hand, I hope his life is a train wreck. On the other hand, I need to get to a place where I don't care anymore.

I'm slowly moving to the "I don't care anymore" phase. That's a healthier place for me to be.

Hugs. You'll get there.

No you are very normal to have those feelings. I did especially in the beginning, although lately those thoughts have crept back in my head especially with him being difficult with the divorce.

I think more or less I just wanted him to experience even just for a day the hell that I went through in beginning.

Time does heal and soon like Hurting said, You just don't care anymore.

Take care!

This is exactly how I feel right about now.

I guess we all feel that way at some point. I want to not care, but I can't help myself. I agree with those who said that he hurt me/them to the core. I can't wish him happiness. I want him to be a miserable as he made me and to hurt as much as I did and still do off and on. I know that he isn't capable of feeling to that degree and that I need to keep trying to put it away from myself, but it is SO hard.

It's not "wrong," or even "right," for that matter. It's a natural part of the process. I think just about everyone who goes through a divorce experiences that feeling at some point. The question is, how long will that feeling last?

I think, ultimately, that's the sort of thing that can eat a person up from the inside. Personally, I think the sooner you can let go of those feelings, the better.

But don't deny what's really going on inside of you. You're human. You're angry. It's fine to want her to suffer. Just don't let the desire to see her suffer consume you. Eventually, it's best to let go of everything: the anger, the hate, and the love.

Funny, I've never really thought about what I wish him. I know in my previous divorce I wished my ex well, but he was a decent man and we just drifted apart.
In this case, he has been acting sooooo stupidly, I know he will suffer. It has nothing to do with whether I want him to or not, but I guess iti doesn't bother me either. A 17 year old employee as a girl friend? TRying to sell fiber glass in Dubai? ACting like a teenager infront of clients? Lying in his accounting? He will suffer. I'm just not sure if I will be there to see it. I'm not sure I care.

I dont want my ex to come to any physical harm, BUT I also dont want her to be over the moon with happiness. I want her to suffer the grief, loss and feel the sadness that I felt.

Its natural.

But Im slowly not caring anymore what she is going through like I did in the beginning.