Chrissy, it happens off and on. We all bond to one another because of the mutual shitstorm we are dealing with, and not only do we support one another, but we can laugh with one another, and joke with one another, and sometimes that just makes us feel normal again.

I've seen so much sorrow in every post and I stayed away because I have enough sorrow...a balance is good for the healing...

Already with only 2 replies I understand better.

Z I love you and hey why you not call me tonight?
Oh excuse me what was the question?

Hey Chrissy, it's supposed to be a divorce support group, and it usually is. Really it is. Just sometimes it gets a little...out of control.

Keep posting your questions/comments/problems. Hopefully we will do our jobs and be supportive. And we can still be silly too. The nice part about that is, when you start getting silly, you start feeling a little bit better. Or it may be the other way around, but either way, it helps a lot.

(((BIG HUGS))) Took a lot of guts to post that tonight!

It's a mix, to be honest.

With any stressful situation, you are going to form bonds with people around you because you share some of the same qualities.

In the military, this is called "Esprit De Corps". I'm not sure if there's a civilian term for it. But it does lead to a very lively social atmosphere.

As far as the OT threads outnumbering the threads that actually have something to do with breakups or divorce, you're right. But one of the things about this place is that it's hard sometimes to talk about what's going on in your life because you've talked and thought about it all day. You want a distraction.

I'm just guessing, but it seems as though most of the more vocal people on tonight have things they're trying to avoid with laughter. And they'll have to go back dealing with them in the morning. But tonight, they're trying to escape if just for a few hours.

ASL PLease

ahhhh Road with the comic relief. ty!

Chrissy-this place really is an amazing place of healing. There were nights, not that long ago, that I don't know what I would have done without it. As you continue here several things will happen, you will find some good friends to help you out when the pain is so raw you can't cope anymore. In addition, you will find friends that will laugh and make you feel better-just because you need to be silly for a moment. Hang in there, reach out to people, we are here to help you out.

What everyone else said in this thread. Personally, I am thankful for it sometimes, its a diversion from an otherwise ongoing nightmare. Yeah, it does seem to go off the rails every now and then. But someone wise once said humor is the best medicine...or something like that.

I have to say that this room helped me out A LOT! They kicked me when I was down but only to show me the light. If that makes any sense at all. They showed me that I was better then my stbx and they supported me when I was in the lowest moments of my seperation. At this point, I have grown and these people have become great friends even though they are online. I still value their opinion even if it has nothing to do with my stbx.

It's one big VERY dysfunctional support group.

I think that (at least for me) DS os a place of support, venting, advice, friendship, humor, raunch, giddiness, anger, silliness as well as sadness. All of these aspects (again, in my opinion) are part of the healing process and help to keep one another sane in an otherwise unfathomable situation. Bottom line, The "e-friends" of DS are a life line. Love them, hate them, agree, disagree..don't give a flying fuck in a rolling doughnut., or make your socks roll up and down.....I'm just grateful that you are all here and available to give me your responses.

SoonTBX...Too bad you ignored my buzzed wide palette comment on the "people" post! I have references! ;)D

It is a Godsend...I stopped crying on June 5th...because of DS and my ability to take the support and making my own efforts to try.

Thanks to all of you for not crucifying me for posting this.

I appreciate your feedback and at least now I understand.

Hugs to all of you.