oh dear..i felt the same way when i joined because i had forgotten how to laugh and feel good about anything..

i remember exactly saturday of easter weekend i starting laughing and enjoying the fun..

I have found from personal experience that this is a support group. Along the way, the mood lightens to the point that there is actually a sense of humor which I consider to be part of the healing process. Life in reality is way too serious. Life in perceptions leans toward all kinds of humor, sacrifice and hurt. I choose the humor. Some people don't. It's a matter of choice and lifesyle. I continue to see the humor in everything. That is my life.

Hello Lovely Humming bird, soon is right, We don't offer any explanation ... but just know ..were here to support you ... I'm just to tired at the moment .... remember good people are here from the bottom of our hearts, who don't want to hurt you. Hugs and Honest Hugs. (((MK)))

There are cliques here as there are in any social atmosphere.

Keep on posting. There is a lot of help and support to be had by many others on here.

A good thing to do to keep your responses more personal is to start a journal. That way if anyone says something off topic or off color, you can delete it.

Hey, Chrissy humming bird... I agree with the board... There are some days that we act like adults... not too many, but there are some... tonight was NOT one of them... sorry 'bout that...
When I found DS, I had been seperated the 1st half of the 1 year seperation period... I felt like I was slippin from 'life' in general... not suicidal or anythin like that, just had no will to continue...
My X had been my life for 20 years, I knew no different... The first 6 months, I simply survived, day to day, woke up, did what was absolutely necessary, and then curl back in bed... SLEEP WAS MY BEST FRIEND!!!

The day I found DS, I was cravin something that could just help pull me the other 6 months... I felt if I could make it the year, things would HAVE to be better...
Well, DS was onna there 'colorful days'...
I felt like an outsider, lost as a goose, but then figured things out, how they worked...
I would ask the questions that were necessary. I had some good answers, but I wasn't finding it "church" friendly... they didn't flock to me, so they must not like me... After the first discussion post I did, I started gettin friend's request...
Anyway, I was livin with my sister & couldn't hardly do anything... That evening, I guess as different ones got off of work, the fun started... It was just a normal post that was taken over with just funny, mostly, dumb stuff, but I was rollin... **I just found out that is called a hijacked thread**
I laughed so hard at something, I was holdin my sides & my eyes were cryin cuz I was laughin so hard... My sister came to me with her husband, felt my head for fever & my brother in law wanted to what kinda medicine had I taken... Hardly able to talk, I told him none...
Since that night, I will admit that I am addicted to DS... I come here earlier to offer support & see if there is anyones that needs an answer I have... But I stick around for the nut cases to start loggin on... Then the 'fun' begins...
I had very few friends while with X... very isolating situation... Those friends stuck around through all of it, dodgin the X for years... but they stuck around, well they love me, but they also love my humor...
I had to find that kinda humor again... It's like a junkie lookin for their next fix...
And somehow, through discussions, hugs, and messaging, I've made friend, some of them I've even met...
Oh, and Just for the record... I talk alot!

Will you people stop honking and STFU?

Chrissy, I totally agree. I would be lost without DS, yet if I had not found this group I would probably not. I belong to other groups but this is the one that subtains me and you people are how I think about daily. Just a few days ago I posted "Over 40 ?" alot there but again turned to group chat. But i wonder if there is alot there that need a special group because more mature but yet doesn't belong here (under 20+ yrs. I also wonder if there is some that need a group about inrecible differences other than infidelity? The thing I have found about other groups is that they are small and don't post or answer for days or weeks. Even though there may be difference though we still hurt and understand and here try to help each other.
The only grip I have with DS and I have wrote them(no response) is when they "Improved" this site this summer is we/groups lost the view other post under advatars in which gives you so much in peoples thoughts, stories, & hearts. Even the home page does not not list our responses to each other on this group. I miss this and use to get so much out of it.IMO

We are all going through a lot in our lives, sometimes even though we are here to support, laughing and joking is also another form of support.. it helps us get through it all.

Chrissy please don't let the last weeks rediculous postings turn you away from DS. It is a wonderful resource. For now, maybe just message the people you feel comfortable with. That way you don't have to deal with the less than desirable ones.

I personally would not change a thing with this group. I have cried and they have supported me...I have cried and they made me laugh (out loud) and continue to do so. I can't imagine not being here. Without the support and laughs I would be lost. This is my DS family and in all families there are many different personalities...those you love no matter what they say or do and those you would some days love to strangle. lol It's all part of the mix and I love it.

I'm not gonna touch this because I didn't really take the thread as lighthearted as everyone else. But everyone else is right.

I am guilty of the chat thing, but i do agree with you somewhat.