Jeff, Plenty of Fish is like a jungle in a fishbowl. Kind of a big terrarium.

Lots of foilage but most will give you poison ivy. Just try to go with the flow and play the odds. A shotgun approach to see if a fish jumps out of the water.

Compared to discos and rap clubs, I would say this has to be the saner choice.

Just wait until you run across the babes with the huge tattoos on their breasts who then go on to list their 132 virtues in alphabetical order. And, of course, they want friends only and love Harleys.

Faithful, that doesn't exactly sound like a ringing endorsement of Plenty of Fish. :D

I'm on there too and I'm wondering if the blokes are nuts......I have one at the moment who will only communicate in verse! I mean, it was amusing/interesting for the first one or two emails....now it's just annoying. Another one who clearly has forgotten that we've actually met for a coffee once before - and he didn't ever follow it up. Clearly he needs a system to avoid duplicates - I'm just toying with him now. Another who demanded sex if we were to meet. We obviously didn't. And another that I was planning to meet, until he started sending me texts that were obviously meant for other people. He needs a list if he's going to play that game.

My theory on internet dating - people do it to put a "toe in the water" - so they can test it out without actually having to commit to anything. Thus they can play to amuse themselves, and then due to the anonymity, they can just disappear with no manners when the going gets serious. It's just a time filler.

I don't know what the other alternatives are though - I dont go to bars or clubs so I'm at the point of buying another 99 cats and just being done with it. All way too hard.

A lot of people on dating sites just use them to cheat, and then there's the lunatics, underage girls lying about their age, etc. etc.

Unless you're like my STBX, and can find an old high school pal to start having an affair with, I'd say it's best to avoid those sites all together... Her one year anniversary with the OM is coming up in a few weeks. Do cheaters have anniversary gifts, like 25th year is silver, 50th is gold... If so, I'm assuming one year would be garbage? Maybe a dead cat in a box? It complicates things that her birthday is about the same time. Should I maybe get her a red light bulb for the front porch of her new little love shack? I must admit to a lack of ignorance as to the etiquette of my situation...

OK, interesting title to your thread.Or maybe I'm just tired.

I was going to ask if Fish even HAD nuts....

at least pof is free! just think, a person could be paying for the same poor quality of dating sites via match.com or (yawn) eharmony.com.

i really do think that the best way to play the online dating game is to roll with it rather than against it. use that sense of humor to create zany profiles that will make the viewer roll with laughter because they know that they are so outlandish as to be completely implausible.

women know that men are much more like chevy chase than kevin kline and men know that women are much more like roseanne barr than halle barre. yet, we persist in our idealistic fantasies about the other sex and what we "settle" for while completely making fools of ourselves by overstating our virtues and accomplishments.

give me a breast-tattoo laden woman over a smiling corporate type any day. at least she will cut the grass if i have a cold.

The only woman I dealt with o POF sent me nude pics. So I have no complaints. The nuts ones are fun.

Just out of curiosity, I lurked POF from my phone at work. There was NOT ONE woman within a 35 mile radius I'd even consider going for coffee with. Most of them are just nasty, or are waaay too young for me. There was even one who admitted she was due in August, "but hoped that wouldn't deter anyone." PUH-LEASE!!!

Plus, I think some of the gals here are just so awesome that I'm forever ruined when comparing who's here to who's over there... ;-)

Not sure if fish have nuts.

Yes, I'm one of those who paid big bucks to belong to a dating service and I get the same thing. One phone call and then nada. What appealed to me about the dating service was the back ground checks. At least I knew I wasn't meeting someone who was convicted of rape or murder LOL. I thought if someone was going to put that kind of money out they would be serious about finding someone. Not true. I think although these men have money, they made an impulse decision to join and then have buyers remorse.

You won't get any feedback from anyone so give up on that. Try meetups.

In the beginning very briefly tried a dating site . I absolutely hate them. Will never try one again, especially since I've decided to never bother dating again. If you are still interested in dating try the meetup groups. You join groups with activities you are interested in and while you are trolling you will be doing activities you enjoy. Good luck. The dating sites are too desperate and way too many creepers. Found the ex on the dating site looking for another victim for his cover. He should have been looking on a transgender dating site with an ad that reads looking for a fabulous looking woman with a big D*&K so I don't have to admit I like dudes.

the thing to keep in mind is that a dating site is merely a tool to find one person that looks to be a good risk. just one person. the rest are just like entries in a thick phone book.

then, after about three messages, you meet that person for coffee. if you are having a good day, your eyes won't gloss over. if you are having a great day, you might even sense that rarest of things, hope.

stay focused on that needle in the haystack - not the haystack.

and, from now on, don't ask a woman if your profile is well written. it is a sign of weakness and Cinderellas loathe weakness.

I've used Eharmony in the past. While, there is a lot of rejection (5 % response rate overall) the people seem real.

I dated one girl from there for a year. My ex and I met on there. We were together for 5 years. I did go out on some dates with other people on there and while nice just didn't spark.

A bar can be the same type of place - lies or interest than but not later. so it happens wherever.

I couldn't stand match or yahoo in the past.

Just try not to take online dating personally (I did in the beginning). You might have to write 100 people to meet that special one.

I tried POF for about 24 hrs then got off there FAST! I didn't encounter anyone I would consider dating and I got some weird messages. It's a free site and pretty unregulated, so I figured it just wasn't for me. My experience with other sites was more positive. But not perfect either.

I also tried match.com and EHarmony. Match.com had the most people, but was a little more of a "free-for-all" than EHarmony. EHarmony screens your matches and controls who contacts you and how much contact you allow, so you don't get the weirdness and harassment. But it also makes it a lot more slow and tedious to actually connect and communicate with people. You have to go through steps of answering questions and so on.

If I were to use online dating again, I would probably stick to EHarmony b/c I prefer the slower, more methodical approach. I would also write back and forth with someone long enough to feel comfortable and get to know them a bit before calling on phone or meeting in person. I think some people jump into phone calls and dating too quickly and they end up meeting a lot of people who are poor matches for them. If they "pre-screened" better before meeting, it might be more successful. jmho

If they dont have nuts then how do they have babies? I only know how the birds and bees do it.