Yes, sometimes it is the answer

Have you tried therapy?

Also, you dated before marrying, right? Surely, there were warning signs beforehand.

If the signs were always there and you'd hoped that marriage would 'change' him, I'd say pack it in. People don't change.

But, if this is something brought on my stress and is completely atypical, then maybe there is hope.

I have never been married, but I will say I do know that when you have 2 censor yourself about the bad stuff they KNOW they are doing then it is never good and will only make u more miserable and resentful of him. Have u tried counseling?

I agree with eyeswideopen. Why do we think marriage will change people??

Yes, we did date beforehand and yes, there were bad signs. He had cheated on both his prior two marriages and he was sleeping with him cousin's wife when we met. After we married, I found that he had a severe addiction to porn and so does his son. I have tried to deal with that (blocked the computer and tv, etc). But he just had his son go out and buy a laptop so it wouldn't be "any of my business" because he said that what his son does in his own room is none of my business. So, yes, there were signs and I should have paid more attention.

We have only been married for 6 months. Haven't tried counseling yet. His father is a preacher and he comes from a great family, I love them dearly. I just don't want to disappoint them.

ok, you need to divorce this guy as soon as you can

Coming from a family where step parents were involved, I feel like sometimes children (even grown children) feel threatened by a new relationship that their parent maybe involved inand feel like they are going to be replaced (emotionally). They may have said something to their father about their feelings and now he feels like he has to prove to his kids that they are still loved and cared for even though he has remarried. I would call a family meeting and discuss everyones feelings so there is no confusion on where anyone stands, then work from there....and yes if it is still an issue divorce may be an option...

Hope things get better for you *HUGS*

It's like he wants his sons to believe that they are all that's important to him. Has to prove that he is a player. I'm so sick of it.

WOW....Yeah thats a problem. Sounds like he has alot of growing up to do.....

Thing is, I have been very good to his children, even though his has shown many times that he could care less for mine. I don't think that they have a problem with me at all, it's Brian. My grandbaby and daughter were playing Sunday upstairs at 1pm and Brian came in and said "u need to keep ur kids quite so David can sleep". Well, one thing, David got fired and isn't even working so I didn't give a damn if he couldn't sleep at 1pm.. Is that wrong? Then days before that I asked him again to have David bring his dishes to the kitchen and pick up his beer bottles and garbage out of his bdrm floor and he got furious.

Counceling or divorce, thats not a healthy situation.

Ok, so the signs were there and you married him anyways? Why? Just curious.

He says I have no business in David's room in the first place. Well, it's in the damn house.

I don't know, cdpulani. I think that I was having such a hard time on my own with no help financially or any other way and Brian makes good money and has a nice house and I saw it as a way out. Was it a mistake, YES