hugs my friend. be gentle with yourself. You are not worthless.

Things are always hard in the beginning, take your time to heal, be kind to yourself. Surround yourself with good people and those that love and care for you and even make you laugh as it’s good for the soul.

In time things will feel and get better, slowly but surely, day by day. Xx

Breakups/Divorce after a long period of time can be really brutal. I got (unexpectedly) divorced 4 years ago after 19 years together. My ex-wife was cheating.

It was a horrible time, but I have had a lot of good times since then! I have also dated an amazing woman and gained new perspective on relationships!

There is positivity in your future. I guarantee it! Just hang in there through the dark times. Things will get better!

Best wishes to you!

I'm sorry you are feeling this way. Be kind to yourself...and know that you deserve love, kindness, and respect.

No one is born worthless, sometimes we are tricked by cruel people into thinking we are.

Don't continue believing their lies. You are important and have more value than you realized.

Sending you light and love.

Remember to take care of you. It's hard I know but eat, exercise, do little things for you. You aren't worthless. You are valued and special.

Your worth is not decided by anyone but you. You have many great qualities. Remind yourself with compassion all what is good about yourself. Spend time with positive people whether friends or family. You are not your thoughts or feelings. They will pass. You are all the great things you know you are. Smart, friendly, easygoing, compassionate, good at sports, a good cook, in great shape. Whatever it is, you have many great qualities and they make you very much worthy.

Noone hardly talks about losing our bearings. The immediate state we find ourselves in after a breakup or end of a marriage is that of shock, confusion, fear. We feel like a ship lost at sea. What do I do now. How and will this pain ever go away. Will I ever feel like myself again? How do I get through this, theough today even.

Everyone says it because it's the truth. Time! It takes time. To process. To figure what the hell happened and why? It takes time to come to terms. To look inward and figure out what my next step is.

It takes one day at a time. Hell sometimes one hour at a time. The sad truth is that its gonna suck until it doesnt. One day you will look back at this moment and thank God it's long in the past. No more hurt. No more longing for that person who abandoned us. Who broke our trust and our heart. You will heal and learn and grow and discover your self worth. It takes time but you will get through this I promise!

For now take it slow. Dont make any big decisions. Take deep breaths when you feel overwhelmed or anxious. Get therapy if you feel you need it. Take good care of your mind body and soul. Just breath and let time and God do tue rest!

Thank you all for your thoughts and encouraging words. This has been a tough time, but I have great family and friends. Thank you to all of you and this wonderful support.