Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Well, back again. My other post has more details but - engagement broke off. Went from best man in the world, love of her life, only one she ever wanted, to we aren't right and I'm not happy. Here is the ring...1 month before a 3 week trip to Russia to see her mom.
The book says it's normal and grieving isn't a straight line. You bounce back and forth between the memories and stuff. You see the good, and than are taken to the breakup. It maybe normal but 2 days without sleep stinks. Oh, it's been 22 days since breakup today, 20 days no contact.
I think the no contact...well I know she won't contact me. She's also beautiful..on the outside..so I'm sure she is dating and moving on. I went on one date and it was..empty for me. I still worry about her because I know her issues which is dumb. But I took care of her and it's who I am. I wear my heart on my sleeve. I gave her my best - cooking her dinner when she worked, dog walks, helping her with the rent, helping her though school, her foods, or tiny things constantly for her (favorite water, wine, candies, trips..). Can still her voice in the breakup though about all the negatives..like anyone else.
Head doctor, friends say that I'll find someone that will appreciate me..but the constant pictures are enough to drive you crazy. I've been asked what would I do if she came back...I don't expect..well part will always hope I guess..but I don't know.
So that's my post. Writing this has helped a little. I guess it's a hug in a way. Hopefully, someone will also read this and know it's normal to be ok one minute than crappy the next for a while.
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I'm horrified! I knew my insurance would go up due to getting a new car but I didn't expect it to go up over $2,000. I did have an accident with the snow/ice in the winter. I was just telling my brother that I have had my car since March 2, 2026 and have only spent $75 on an oil change. Now this! I called another insurance company and their quote was over $4,000. I guess I have to pay...
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Another thing that is helpful is another kind of writing. Write a list of her Pros and Cons. A list of everything you liked about her.... But then a great big long list of everything you really didn't like about her, and the relationship so much.... and be honest, too! Include all the Cons.
Yes, you DO have someone very important to live for - your daughter. She needs you. And, to live for yourself too, of course.
It may *feel* like the end of the world now, but you know intellectually it isn't, and eventually your brain will over rule your heart. It will get there. This kind of thing takes time. You are grieving. Grieving a loss. You said you are 47... so I am sure you have been through break ups before that you maybe thought were the end of the world at the time, right? And, maybe even other losses along the way that you could hardly bear? Wish I could tell you life is always happy and sunshine, but unfortunately it isn't. And, that part of life sucks!!
Keep it up, you are doing great. Whether you see that now or not.