Wow...Sorry to hear this Rman. Even thinking this is pretty painful stuff. If it winds up being true than it is even worse to deal with.

If she is, it is time to leave.

Even if she isn't, there is a reason that you are thinking this.

Actually, it didn't for me, TD.

I was dumb enough to want to keep trying.

Because I'm stupid like that.

It's different for everyone DAB. I wouldn't tolerate that bound being broken. Go figure.

True dat.

If she is, and if your wife is anything like mine, it's all your fault.

Don't fall for that shit. Don't even stumble for it.

Yeh, same here TD and DAB, once I found out that she had cheated that bond was broken and how I looked at her and our situation was through different eyes.

Do you think she is?...

with my ex I had suspicion but threw it out of my head. I mean how could he do that? how could anyone? But i was wrong

No it won't. I think you have alluded to this before? Can you talk to her, and finally get some answers?

Rman - didn't you comment about messages left on your answering machine at home by some man looking for her?

Sometimes it sucks to acknowledge the obvious but if it quacks like a duck and walks like a duck....

you know

I second DAB. If I learned anything in my last relationship is that your gut instinct rarely lies.

She went out last night. The kids were watched at our home by one of her friends. She said she got her hair cut and colored, but there was no transaction on the account. She also doesn't carry cash, so it just makes me wonder. Earlier this week she said she wasn't attracted to me anymore. I feel ugly...but I won't shed a tear...in fact, it will only make me stronger...as much as it sucks...

Shit....I hate making assumptions but as a numbers man....the numbers rarely lie. She told you one thing and the numbers don't support it. That's all you know...but she isn't telling you something and that sucks because....well like you said you're wondering. And wondering will drive a person INSANE.

I think you REALLY need to start thinking about what YOU want independent of this situation.

Oh, Shit! That has got to hurt just thinking she might be!

Rman, you seem to be attractive on the inside, from what I've followed on here. You care about others, and give a lot of support and offer distraction with your OT posts, which are a nice break.

Don't let her influence who you are and how you view yourself. You have gifts, and it's her loss that she is to stupid to see that.

Maybe it's time to call her out on it, and get the truths. It will be hard to hear, if she admits it, but then you will be able to move on and get past it.

HUGS!

Thanks. Attractive on the inside, like my bones and guts and blood is sexy? ewwwwww, but thanks!

Those transactions take a while to show up.

Patience grasshopper.